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How to organise your homeschool: Tips for managing books, learning supplies, and your time.

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Homeschooling our boys has so far been such an exciting and full on journey! We are delving head on into wonder-filled discovery and it has been both my challenge and joy to help the boys lean more into their learning styles, as well as value and enjoy the process of learning! Hands up if you are the type of mum that picks up every educational book because you just KNOW that it’ll add value to their learning experience? Or was it at a price that you couldn’t resist? ha!

One of the challenges with Home Ed is keeping all your things organised! Managing books, supplies, toys and resources can quickly become overwhelming if not handled with care. An organised homeschool space is crucial for maintaining a productive and stress-free learning atmosphere – no matter the size of your space. Here are some practical tips to help you create an organised and efficient homeschool environment.

1. Create a dedicated homeschool space

One of the beauties of homeschooling is that we can create a beautiful seamless flow between home life and learning. I think even with this though, when it comes to some sit down learning, it’s useful to designate a specific area in your home for homeschooling. This space doesn’t need to be a separate room; a corner of a living room, dining table, or dining area can work just fine. The key is to have a consistent place where all specific learning activities take place and where all materials are stored.

A designated learning space helps to minimise distractions that are common in other parts of the house. It provides a controlled environment where toys, TV, and other household activities are not within immediate reach, encouraging and training our children’s minds to concentrate. Also, if you have multiple children who do not learn together, you can create separate play/learning areas so each child can focus on what they are doing.

Also, for us mamas, it helps us to feel organised and in control of the homeschooling process. This designated area allows for all educational materials, books, and supplies to be kept in one place, reducing clutter and the stress of searching for items when needed. It also establishes a clear routine and structure within our home, making it easier for us to manage daily schedules and transitions between activities. Knowing that there is a specific, orderly spot for learning activities not only streamlines the homeschooling process but also creates a sense of calm and efficiency (I play instrumentals on the speaker when my eldest is learning at the table).

2. Use bookshelves wisely

Books are an essential part of homeschooling! They transport us to the world, and fill our hearts and minds with such wonder. I am a big fan of books and I am working so intentionally to make it part of the children’s lives. When we started homeschooling, one of the first things I was told was “all you need is a Bible and a library card”. Books at home can quickly accumulate though without you realising it! Invest in sturdy bookshelves to keep them organised. Here are some ways that we have used bookshelves and been creative with them!

Floating mounted book shelves by each boys sleeping area has been a great addition to the boys room. I wanted to create a private and personal area for them to keep their most favourite books that they could read in bed either in the morning if they wake up early or the evening before they go to sleep.

An accessible book case is also great for encouraging independent reading and access to books. By having a dedicated space at their height, children can independently explore and choose books that pique their interest and this creates a sense of ownership and excitement about reading. Even my 2 year old enjoys taking books from the shelf!

Book bins are also utilised for taller books, and to make it more fun for the children, we have them placed in different locations of the house. These bins are regularly rotated to keep the interest, as they don’t know what treasures they’ll find in them!

An IKEA Bookcase with panel/glass doors is used to store books and resources that need to be out of reach of young hands, as well as books that are little advanced for them at this stage (but I am still buying or collecting!) We chose the book shelf with panels/doors to create a visually appealing area that is attractive to the eye.

3. Incorporate storage bins and containers

Storage bins and containers are lifesavers for organising homeschool books because they provide a practical and efficient way to keep materials orderly and accessible. With homeschooling often involving numerous books, workbooks, and supplies, these bins and containers help categorise and store items neatly, preventing clutter and making it easier to find specific resources quickly.

They can be labelled and colour-coded, further enhancing the organisation and allowing for easy rotation of subjects or materials. Additionally, using storage solutions helps maintain a tidy learning environment, which can reduce distractions and create a more focused, productive space for both teaching and learning. This organisation not only streamlines the homeschooling process (allowing you to see exactly the things that you have) but it also instills good habits of tidiness and responsibility in our children.

Use clear bins to store art supplies, science kits, math manipulatives, and other materials. Label each bin clearly to make it easy for your children to find what they need and to put things back in their proper place.

4. Implement a rotating system for supplies

To prevent clutter and ensure that all of your materials are used, implement a rotating system. It’s so helpful especially when we often tempted to add more when we are out and about in the shops. Creating a rotation system can help keep things fresh for us too. Store out-of-season or future materials in a closet or storage area, and bring them out when needed. This keeps your main homeschooling space tidy and focused.

5. Utilise a rolling cart

A rolling cart can be a versatile addition to your homeschool setup and I know a few homeschool mamas who use them. We use a tower drawer unit as I found it more handy to throw toys into when they weren’t in use. Also, I feels easier to keep things neater. You can use either to keep daily essentials like current textbooks, planners, and supplies handy. At the end of the day, It can be rolled away, or picked up and moved to keep your space clutter-free. They are both great options for moving materials from room to room if you don’t have a dedicated homeschool space.

6. Set up a command center

A command center helps to encourage proactivity and focus on daily activities. Using a bulletin board or wall organiser to display your family’s daily schedule, calendar, chore charts, and important notices is crucial for maintaining order and clarity in your household and homeschooling experience.

As busy parents, having a visible, centralised spot for all essential information helps everyone stay on the same page and creates a sense of responsibility and routine among everyone. It ensures that daily activities, appointments, and chores are clearly communicated, reducing the likelihood of missed tasks or misunderstandings. We use yearly calendars, as well as a large whiteboard in the kitchen to help us bring together the many moving parts in our home.

This visual organisation tool can also serve as a motivational center, where achievements and important reminders are highlighted, promoting a positive and proactive household environment. By keeping everything in plain sight, a bulletin board or wall organiser simplifies the juggling act of family life, making it easier to manage time, responsibilities, and expectations effectively.

7. Establish a filing system

Creating a filing system for important papers, assignments, and records is key! You could use a filing cabinet or portable file box to organise by subject or student. This system will make it easier to keep track of completed work and necessary documents as your children grow older.

Organising your homeschool and your home doesn’t have to be a daunting task. With a bit of planning and creativity, you can create a learning environment that is both functional and inspiring. Remember, the goal is to make your space work for you and your children, fostering a love for learning and making homeschooling a joyful experience for everyone involved.

Happy organising and a massive thank you to a dear friend of mine Karla from Klear My Space who helped me sort through and organise my boys things. She’s a wonderful, a reliable and professional home decluttering and organising solutions person who is just a phone call away if you need some help!

Thank you for joining me on this journey of motherhood and faith. If you found comfort and encouragement in this post, I invite you to explore more of my writings on similar topics.

Why is motherhood so hard?

How do I balance family and personal life?

9 hacks to help you thrive in motherhood

Affirmations for mothers at home

On my blog, you’ll discover a wealth of stories, tips, and reflections aimed at nurturing your spirit and supporting you through the beautiful chaos of motherhood.

From practical advice on balancing daily responsibilities to heartfelt reflections on deepening your relationship with God, there’s something for every season of motherhood. I’ve shared real-life experiences, lessons learned, and moments of grace that I hope will resonate with you and provide the encouragement you need.

Visit my blog for more posts on creating a peaceful home, finding joy in the little moments, and leaning into God’s strength amidst the challenges. Let’s continue this journey together, growing in faith and love, one step at a time.

Alethea

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The importance of teaching household skills + some creative ideas!

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As a homeschooling Christian mother blessed with three sons, I have found myself reflecting deeply on the values I wish to instill in my children. In today’s rapidly changing world, where traditional gender roles are being redefined, I believe there is immense importance in teaching my boys the skills needed to work within the home as well as outside. While societal norms may have shifted, the timeless principles of responsibility, service, and stewardship remain invaluable, especially within the context of a Christian household.

From an early age, I have sought to cultivate a nurturing environment where my sons not only understand the importance of contributing to the household but also embrace it as a privilege and a responsibility. Contrary to outdated stereotypes, teaching boys to work in the home is not about limiting their potential or confining them to traditional gender roles. Instead, it is about empowering them with essential life skills that will serve them well in all aspects of their lives as they grow older.

Servanthood

Our desire, first and foremost is that our boys know the Lord and walk in His ways Lord willing. I hope and pray that they will take on the role as spiritual leaders of their homes, willing to take on difficult tasks and to face problems with heart until they come to a solution. This takes on the form of servanthood. As Christians, we are called to emulate the example set by Jesus Christ, who demonstrated humility and service through his actions. By involving my boys in household chores such as cooking, cleaning, and laundry, I am not only teaching them practical skills but also instilling in them a spirit of humility and selflessness. These seemingly mundane tasks become opportunities for them to practice love in action and to serve others with joy.

I have to remind myself that this is the training ground. So even if an activity takes much longer, or I receive resistance because they would much rather do something else, I have to gently persevere, encourage and normalise hard work because it is good work!

Accountability

Teaching my boys to work in the home creates a sense of responsibility and accountability. In a world that often prioritises individualism and self-gratification, it is a desire for me to instill a strong work ethic and a sense of duty towards their family and community. By assigning age-appropriate tasks and holding them accountable for their contributions, I am equipping my sons with the tools they need to become responsible and dependable men.

Moreover, teaching my boys to work in our home promotes a culture of teamwork and cooperation within the family. As siblings, my sons learn to collaborate and support each other in completing household chores, creating a sense of unity. These shared experiences not only strengthen their bond as brothers but also prepare them to navigate the complexities of relationships outside the home. They often hold each other accountable when the one is not pulling their weight!

Stewardship

In addition to the practical benefits, training my boys to work in the home also aligns with biblical principles of stewardship. As stewards of God’s creation, we are called to responsibly manage the resources entrusted to us, including our time, talents, and material possessions. By teaching my sons to care for their home and belongings, I am reminding them of stewardship and appreciation for the blessings they have been given.

Here are some fun creative ways for you to encourage responsibility for your children!

  1. Chore Chart: A weekly chart where children can track their daily chores and mark them off when completed.
  2. Responsibility Checklist: A checklist of daily responsibilities tailored to different age groups.
  3. Behaviour Tracker: A printable to help track positive behaviors and areas that need improvement.
  4. Allowance Tracker: A tool for tracking chores completed and allowance earned, helping children understand the value of money.
  5. Goal Setting Worksheet: A sheet where children can set short-term and long-term goals and track their progress.
  6. Time Management Planner: A daily or weekly planner designed for children to organise their tasks and activities.
  7. Reading Log: A log for tracking books read, along with space for notes or reflections on each book.
  8. Family Rules Agreement: A printable contract where the family can agree on certain rules and responsibilities.
  9. Responsibility Badge System: Printable badges or certificates that children can earn when they demonstrate responsibility.
  10. Problem-Solving Worksheet: A worksheet that guides children through the steps of identifying problems, considering solutions, and taking action.

These printables can be designed to be visually appealing and easy to use!

Thank you for joining me on this journey of motherhood and faith. If you found comfort and encouragement in this post, I invite you to explore more of my writings on similar topics.

Why is motherhood so hard?

How do I balance family and personal life?

9 hacks to help you thrive in motherhood

Affirmations for mothers at home

On my blog, you’ll discover a wealth of stories, tips, and reflections aimed at nurturing your spirit and supporting you through the beautiful chaos of motherhood.

From practical advice on balancing daily responsibilities to heartfelt reflections on deepening your relationship with God, there’s something for every season of motherhood. I’ve shared real-life experiences, lessons learned, and moments of grace that I hope will resonate with you and provide the encouragement you need.

Visit my blog for more posts on creating a peaceful home, finding joy in the little moments, and leaning into God’s strength amidst the challenges. Let’s continue this journey together, growing in faith and love, one step at a time.

Blessings,

Alethea

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How to deal with overwhelm as a mother

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Oh, how I understand the weight of motherhood!

It’s a beautiful, sacred journey, but it can also be incredibly overwhelming. There are days when it feels like the to-do list is never-ending, and the demands on our time and energy feel impossible to meet. But take heart mama, for you are not alone. Wherever you are reading this today I hope you can use this moment to exhale and just BREATHE. Grab a cup of tea, as I share some ways to navigate the overwhelm, drawn from my own experiences and our faith in God’s unending grace.

One morning, I woke up to the sound of my toddler’s cries, and my other two boys fighting over a toy that they had snuck into their room the night before. My heart sank as I tried to ignore the sounds, hoping my husband would take one for the parent team. He was fast asleep! I stumbled out of bed, already feeling defeated before the day had really begun. Have you ever had a day start like that? In moments like these, it’s easy to feel crushed by the weight of our responsibilities. But I’ve learned that when we start our day with a quick prayer, asking God for strength and guidance, it can transform our outlook. Even a simple, “Lord, help me today,” whispered in the chaos, can bring a sense of calm and remind us that we’re not carrying this load alone.

The power of routine

Another way to tackle overwhelm is by embracing the power of a routine. My mornings used to be a whirlwind of forgotten tasks and last-minute scrambles as everyone bounced around me. But once I started setting aside a little time in the evening to prepare for the next day, things began to shift. A quick 30 minutes to lay out clothes, prepare lunches, and even spending a few quiet moments with God’s Word before bed can make a world of difference for the next day.

Proverbs 31:27 speaks of the woman who “watches over the affairs of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness.” Creating a routine doesn’t mean we have to be perfect; it’s about finding a rhythm that brings peace to our days. Even waking up a few moments before the children will help you to gather your thoughts before everyone else wakes up. My morning routine typically begins with a workout, writing or reading, all before the boys wake up, and it really helps me to feel like I am doing something for myself- filling up my own cup before I focus on pouring into others.

Perfection doesn’t exist

When we first become mothers, perfection is the thing that can completely consume us. There was a season when I felt like I had to do everything perfectly – be the perfect mum, the perfect wife, the perfect homemaker. But one day, as I sat exhausted and so close to tears, a dear friend reminded me that it’s okay to ask for help. Galatians 6:2 encourages us to “carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ.” Don’t be afraid to reach out to your spouse, family, or friends when you need a hand. Whether it’s asking your husband to watch the kids so you can have a moment to yourself or arranging a playdate swap with a fellow mum, sharing the load can lighten your heart immensely, and ease the overwhelm that we often feel

I also want to encourage you to carve out time for self-care, without guilt. Jesus often withdrew to lonely places to pray (Luke 5:16), showing us the importance of rest and renewal. For me, this looks like a quiet walk in the evening or morning, a few minutes of journaling or reading, or even just sitting in the car for a few extra moments after grocery shopping. Find what replenishes your soul and make it a regular part of your routine. Remember, taking care of yourself isn’t selfish; it’s necessary for you to pour out love and care for your family.

Creating a “thrive list” has been a game-changer for me in navigating the demands and sacrifice in motherhood. This list includes all the things that bring me joy and fulfillment such as reading a good book, taking a walk in nature, enjoying a hot cup of tea, or spending quiet time in prayer. By intentionally setting aside time to engage in this, I ensure that I don’t lose myself in the daily responsibilities of motherhood. It’s a reminder that nurturing my own well-being is essential, not only for me but also for my ability to be the best mother I can be to my boys. Making space for what I love helps me to thrive, maintaining a sense of balance and joy in the beautiful chaos of raising children.

You can download yours for FREE here and put it in a place where you’ll see it and be encouraged to pour into yourself.

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The power of community

Lastly, Remember the power of community. Surround yourself with other mothers who understand the ups and downs of this journey. Join a local mums’ group, attend church events, or even connect online through social media. Sharing your struggles and victories with others can be incredibly uplifting. We are meant to support one another, just as it says in Ecclesiastes 4:9-10, “Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up.”

In all these things, hold onto the truth that God’s grace is sufficient for us (2 Corinthians 12:9). We don’t have to be perfect; we just have to be present and willing to trust Him with our daily struggles. Motherhood is a marathon, not a sprint, and by leaning on God and each other, we can find the strength to keep going, even on the hardest days.

You’ve got this mama.

Thank you for joining me on this journey of motherhood and faith. If you found comfort and encouragement in this post, I invite you to explore more of my writings on similar topics.

Why is motherhood so hard?

How do I balance family and personal life?

9 hacks to help you thrive in motherhood

Affirmations for mothers at home

On my blog, you’ll discover a wealth of stories, tips, and reflections aimed at nurturing your spirit and supporting you through the beautiful chaos of motherhood.

From practical advice on balancing daily responsibilities to heartfelt reflections on deepening your relationship with God, there’s something for every season of motherhood. I’ve shared real-life experiences, lessons learned, and moments of grace that I hope will resonate with you and provide the encouragement you need.

Visit my blog for more posts on creating a peaceful home, finding joy in the little moments, and leaning into God’s strength amidst the challenges. Let’s continue this journey together, growing in faith and love, one step at a time.

Blessings,

Alethea

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How to: Nurturing character in our children.

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It’s so easy to be hyper focused on our children’s academic success that we miss nurturing the person within that God has created them to be. One morning as we made our way to the library I watched my two boys scooting in front of me and I thought WOW. Look at them. Have you ever had that moment too mama?

When you just stop in your tracks and look at your children and become overwhelmed at the gift of who they are. You look at their faces, watch them play or focused on an activity and suddenly you are seeing them in 5-10 years time and wonder what they will look like and how they’ll be? It’s an overwhelmingly beautiful moment! A true wonder.

Most days though, my mind forgets this as I am hyper focused on helping them to master their penmanship skills, phonics and maths (I talk more about identifying their learning styles in another post). In those moments, character isn’t so much at the forefront of my mind as them getting their work correct is.

Yet imagine if we focused on nurturing their character first, knowing that if we master that, we’ll also nail their relationship with learning and ultimately academic success.

I know, I know; the thought of not having the pursuit of academics at the forefront of their learning experience is enough to send a chill down our backs. I for sure know that it feels scary not focusing on academics first because a huge part of me feels insecure about them not mastering the academic side of learning from an early age! Academics also came very naturally to me, so it has always been my default when I think about their learning experience.

However my boys have taught me that for them at this stage and age, academics first would actually crush their spirits and dampen the relationship that I am working on building with them. I see that one of my sons comes alive when learning is made very practical for him and it doesn’t feel like “learning”. He is very much a kinesthetic learner and he started to open my eyes to the possibility of adapting my approach and view of what learning looks like.

Character First

Nevertheless, character first seems to be signaling so brightly to me. When we build on the character first, the academic success is not only enhanced, but their view and approach to life is enhanced too.

There are some moments when I have been really frustrated when trying to encourage my first born son to learn a particular concept. I am hitting a brick wall while he is having a meltdown! When he works on his craft projects- which he absolutely loves to do, he always starts crying and throwing his items on the floor in frustration when he gets stuck on a particular thing. One day, I realised that instead of becoming frustrated with him, while I watched him struggle to manage his emotions, I needed to spend some time teaching him about perseverance. I need to train this character trait in him.

On another day, I was finding it difficult to maintain a sense of order while I worked with my 2nd born because he kept on forcing his way and talking over me while I tried to explain something. The constant interruptions made it difficult for me to flow well, and I was very frustrated. That day also made me realise that I need to nurture the character trait of self control, empathy and respect within his heart.

I realise that my attempt to train character has a bigger reach. Working on their hearts is key because when we master that, this strength in character flows well to affect other areas of their lives- not just academics. From helping with chores, being together as a family as well as working well with their formal learning, the blessing is far reaching.

Nurturing character is effectively training the heart. It is the hardest job to do and requires consistency with instruction and practice. Good character doesn’t come easily or naturally to us because responding as our raw emotions lead us to is powerful. Our children have the potential of the muscle hidden within, and as mothers it is our job to help them exercise this muscle little by little to build strength, trusting that the practice of this training will bear fruit in their lives over time.

What Character traits are useful?

Character development plays a crucial role in helping our children build academic success in several ways:

  1. Responsibility and accountability:
    • When our children develop a sense of responsibility, they are more likely to complete their work well, and take ownership of their learning experience. When we give them a vision that they have a part to play in filling their minds with good, beautiful and wonderful things, it fosters a sense of responsibility in this area.
  2. Perseverance and resilience:
    • Character traits like perseverance and resilience help our children navigate academic challenges and setbacks. Instead of giving up when they get stuck on something, they learn to keep trying and never give up, which is essential for mastering difficult subjects and overcoming obstacles in life. We have to be there to keep encouraging them to get back up, and sowing the seeds into their hearts to persevere until they reach a solution. I am often so tempted to step in when they get stuck, but I have to also train myself to hold off for a little while so they can build a little muscle in this area. I’ll be doing them a disservice if I am constantly running to their rescue.
  3. Self-Discipline and time management:
    • Self-discipline helps our children to focus on their studies, avoid distractions, and prioritise their tasks effectively over time. I am always encouraging the boys toward good time management when we need to leave the house so they’ll be aware that efficiency in this area is important. Picking up after themselves, keeping their work area reasonably organised, focusing on one task at a time are some of the ways that I also help build personal discipline within their hearts.
  4. Integrity and honesty:
    • Integrity ensures that our children engage in honest academic practices, such as not cheating on exams or taking short cuts to do their work. It’s so easy to do, especially whey they lose interest and want to do something else, or want to rush through quickly.
  5. Empathy and collaboration:
    • Developing empathy helps our children to work well with their teachers, creating a positive learning environment. Collaborative skills are crucial for group projects and cooperative learning activities, and encouraging them in this area is so important as they need to have respect for others as much as they do with wanting their voice to be heard. Respect is a big thing in our household of boys who have big personalities. Everyone wants to be first, and have their own way but life doesn’t work that way, so we need to teach them about the importance of working with others when it is needed.
  6. Confidence and self-esteem:
    • Strong character builds confidence and self-esteem, and while encouraging empathy, we can also encourage our children to participate actively and at appropriate times by asking questions, and seeking help when needed rather than internalising their frustration with their work. One of the moments that helps us to build this character trait is during devotion time where we encourage questions, throughout.
  7. Curiosity and Love of Learning:
    • Character traits such as curiosity and a love of learning inspire our children to explore subjects deeply and engage with the material beyond their classroom. This is the area that we don’t want to die because we want them to se the beauty in being life long learners. We don’t want the flame to be snuffed out because of rigid routines and expectations.

Strategies to help you instill strong character traits in your child

Teaching our children character involves intentional actions and consistent modelling of positive behaviours, as well as prayer over their lives. Remembering to give them a vision of who God is calling them to be and what the Bible encourages them to be sows a spiritual seed beyond our own voices.

Train up a child in the way he should go, And when he is old he will not depart from it.

Proverbs 22:6

Here are a few ideas to encourage you in building character in your children:

  1. Model positive behaviour:
    • Starting with one of the hardest ones and pointing the spotlight on ourselves! Children learn by observing their parents and caregivers. So it’s important that we demonstrate the character traits we want to instill, such as honesty, kindness, patience, and responsibility. I am so convicted by this lol! If I want my boys to be kind to others, it would be great if they first saw me modelling this to a loved one or stranger. What is caught tends to stick. Be consistent in your actions and words.
  2. Set clear expectations and boundaries:
    • Establishing clear rules and expectations for behaviour is so important. With multiple children, this encouragement is so key because they feed off each other. Explain the importance of your house rules and the values behind them. We have an “Awuku” mantra that the boys say most days and have memorised. When someone misbehaves or mistreats another, we remind them of the expectations. Consistent enforcement helps our children understand the boundaries and the reasons for them.
  3. Encourage responsibility:
    • Give your child age-appropriate tasks and responsibilities at home. This can include chores, managing their homework, or caring for their younger sibling. Responsibility teaches accountability and the value of contributing to the family which is so important. Responsibility is something that is dear to my heart in raising my boys because they lean towards being lazy and expecting everything to be done for them. Absolutely not lol! I am busting that myth. They need to know that they are part of a group, and it is only through responsible work that things get done.
  4. Teach empathy and compassion:
    • Encourage your child to consider others’ feelings and perspectives. Use teachable moments, such as discussing a story where someone is treated unfairly to talk about empathy and kindness. I find that picking books around a topic like this is so helpful because it fires their imaginations. We all love a story- especially a life giving story that inspires us to rise up to be a better version of ourselves. When you see your child demonstrating empathy and compassion, give it a gently recognition, as this helps validate their positive action and they’ll want to keep doing it.
  5. Promote honesty and integrity:
    • Foster a culture of honesty by encouraging your child to speak the truth and by being honest yourself. Praise them when they tell the truth, even in difficult situations. Discuss the importance of integrity and the consequences of dishonesty through stories and vivid illustrations because again this gives a vision that sticks in their hearts. While they are young, constant sowing and watering of he honesty and integrity seed is so important as when they grow and encounter many things, we hope that they’ll remain open with us.
  6. Encourage perseverance and resilience:
    • Teach your child to face challenges and setbacks with a positive attitude. It is certainly an area where we have to persevere ourselves! We have to keep encouraging them to keep trying, even when things are difficult. It can be anything from making their bed, trying up their shoe laces correctly, putting their clothes on, writing their name, washing their hands after using the toilet, picking up their toys and putting them in the right place. We are there to encourage them towards doing things well and seeing it through to the end. Here, you can again share stories (even from your own life) of perseverance and discuss the importance of not giving up.
  7. Teach gratitude:
    • Cultivate an attitude of gratitude by encouraging your child to express thanks for what they have and for the people in their lives. Prayer helps with this, as well as having conversations about God and His mercies. Some may like to practice gratitude together as a family by keeping gratitude journals or sharing things that you are thankful for each day. Training them to know what to be thankful for (such as people, provision etc) is important because it helps them to know where to direct deeper thoughts that goes beyond their toys.
  8. Promote fairness and justice:
    • As much as our children love each other, they also fight ALOT because each wants their own needs met all the time. Teaching them to play fair, share, and treat others with respect is a daily work on our part because their flesh dictates so strongly. How can we do this? Talk about a situation where someone was treated unfairly. This could be from a news story, a book, or a personal experience. Discuss why it was unfair and what could have been done differently to make it just.
    • Use toys and playtime to teach sharing. If one child is using a toy, explain that they need to let others have a turn after a reasonable amount of time. Praise them when they share willingly.
    • Set up role-playing scenarios where children can practice resolving conflicts fairly. For instance, one child pretends to be upset because they were left out of a game, and the other must find a fair solution.
    • Encourage your child to think about how their actions affect others. If they are unkind or unfair, ask them how they would feel if the situation were reversed. This helps them understand the impact of their behavior on others.
  9. Engage in hospitality and your community:
    • It is good for our children to see love for others in action and that looks different in all our homes. By involving them in our acts of service and hospitality helps to reinforce the idea that there is a world that exists outside of their own and encourages compassion and thoughtfulness towards others. Involve your child in local community service or volunteer activities. This helps to provide practical opportunities to practice and observe positive character traits in others which will also encourage them in a great way.

So there we go mama. I hope you’ll see by this post just how deep and far and broad character nurture goes, and I have only touched on a few areas. Nurturing character in our children while fostering academic success is a delicate but achievable balance that yields lifelong benefits. By modelling positive behaviour, encouraging empathy, and creating an environment where values like responsibility, honesty, and kindness are practiced daily, we lay a strong foundation for both personal growth and academic achievement over time.

Integrating character-building activities into our routines and using everyday moments as teaching opportunities will help our children develop into well-rounded individuals. Remember, the goal is not perfection but progress. With patience, consistency, and a focus on personal and spiritual development, we can support our children in becoming successful in whatever they put their mind and hearts to.

I’ve created some beautiful printables to help our children build character. These printables are available in the shop and will encourage conversations and serve as great reminders!

I’d love to hear from you! What are you implementing in your home to encourage character in your children?

Alethea

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Supermums are a myth (but faithful mums are real)

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My husband watched on as I juggled the demands from our 3 boys while preparing dinner, and planning family activities on a calendar. “Wow, you are a superwoman, how do you do it?” I didn’t respond because to be honest I didn’t know what to say in that moment. He often uses this phrase for me and I am quick to remind him that I am not superwoman. I am very much a woman who needs help and support because I don’t want to create an illusion that I have it all together!

We’ve all heard the saying “she’s a supermum” to describe a mother who seemingly excels in all areas of her life, often juggling multiple roles and responsibilities with exceptional efficiency and effectiveness. This can include managing a household, raising children, working a full-time job, maintaining a social life, staying physically fit, and being involved in community or school activities.

She does it all and this incredible “supermum” is often portrayed as handling these diverse and demanding tasks effortlessly and without showing signs of stress or fatigue. Some of us envy this type of mum, others work so hard to embody her, and the rest wonder how they’ll ever live up to this ideal of a woman. Whichever camp you sit in, I am here to tell you that you can take a deep long breath! Super mums aren’t miraculously created, but faithfulness to our homes is what the true goal is and where the prize lies.

I wanted to title this post originally as Faithful Mums: The true heroes beyond the supermum myth as it also truthfully echoes the reality of what we live out each day. As a Christian mother, striving for the title of “supermum” can often leave us feeling exhausted and inadequate, chasing after an impossible ideal. Striving in our own effort to fulfill a divine calling in our own strength only sets us up to feel discouraged and overwhelmed when we realise just how much the role of mother entails. We are human. We fall short, we have challenges and set backs, and we are imperfect- But God.

In God’s eyes, our faithfulness to our families holds far greater value, than us over exerting ourselves to meet shifting societal markers. Faithfulness means showing up each and every day with a hearts posture to be committed to what God has called us to- in the good and the bad. It means showing up with love, grace, and consistency, embracing the unique calling God has given us within our homes. It’s in the daily acts of care, the moments of prayer, and the intentional nurturing of our children’s hearts where “super” moments are found.

God doesn’t call us to be perfect and to have it all together. He calls us to be present and focused. When we prioritise faithfulness over perfection, we model His unwavering love and faithfulness to our children. Some days may flow really well, and other days may be very challenging. Through it all, if we determine in our hearts to not give up on what God has given us, and to count it all as a blessing, we’ll be able to connect our hearts with the right action.

This is the true essence of motherhood, far surpassing any worldly notion of being a “supermum.” In fact, if we are seeking to build lasting and deep relationships with our children, they need a Christ-dependent mum more than a supermum who wants to flow and present life perfectly well all the time.

How can we be faithful?

Some aspects of mothering are simply mundane and normal. There are laundry piles to fold, schedules to manage, food to pick up from the floor dishes to wash and floors to sweep. If we approach these tasks with our whole hearts, they too embody faithfulness to the calling of motherhood.

  • Waking up each day and determining within our hearts to be faithful is the first step to accomplishing this goal. Starting each day by seeking God’s guidance and strength, asking Him to fill us with His peace and wisdom helps to position our minds in the right place. Prayer anchors us in His presence and aligns our hearts with His purposes. Make it a habit to pray with and for your family, inviting God into every aspect of your daily life. Through prayer, we find the resilience to face challenges and the grace to extend love even in difficult moments.
  • Secondly, embracing the beauty of small, consistent acts of love is so so key. Faithfulness is often found in the ordinary moments – a kind word, a listening ear, a gentle touch, a hug. Celebrating these seemingly mundane acts as significant contributions to our family’s well-being is so important to making love feel tangible. It’s not the grand gestures but the daily demonstrations of love and care that build a strong, loving home. Remember, it’s in the little things that our faithfulness shines the brightest.
  • Thirdly, cultivating a heart of gratitude goes a long way. Regularly take time to count your blessings and express gratitude for your family helps to shift our focus from what we lack to the abundance we have in Christ. It fosters a positive atmosphere in our homes and helps us to see our family members through God’s eyes. By modeling thankfulness, we teach our children to appreciate the goodness of God in their lives, encouraging contentment and joy.
  • Lastly, weaving in rest and self-care into our routines is key to preventing burnout and helps us to remain feeling refreshed in our roles . As mothers, we often pour ourselves out for our families, but it’s essential to recognise our own need for rest and renewal. Jesus Himself took time to withdraw, rest and pray, setting an example for us. Find moments to recharge, whether through reading Scripture, enjoying a hobby, or simply taking a walk in nature. When we care for ourselves, we are better equipped and ready to to care for our families with faithful patience.

By grounding ourselves in gratitude, we can remain faithful to our families in a way that honours God and nurtures those we love. Let us cast aside the pressures of being “supermums” and instead, find joy and fulfillment in being faithful mothers, steadfastly reflecting Christ’s love and perseverance in our homes.

Alethea

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How do I balance family and personal life?

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Hey mama,

I hope you are doing well?

Have you ever felt like your days are spiraling at the speed of light and it’s hard to place your feet on the ground and just breathe?

Most days, I feel this exact way. Really in the thick of it as a young mother with 3 young children. Sometimes, everything is up in the air and I can’t get a grasp on anything- all the while feeling so exhausted from the sheer pace of it all.

I feel like I am in a tornado, yet in the midst of this, what do I do? Of course to get in inspiration (and let’s be honest to escape my own life for a moment and be nosey) I hop onto social media to take a peek at the mothers who appear to be doing so well in work, family life, home life and personal interests- further making me feel defeated as I struggle to keep my eyes open and motivation up to play yet another game with my boys in the day.

Can you relate?

It can be a daily battle to feel and believe that we are building balance and abundance when all the busyness and tiredness merges into one.

Yet my passion and belief is that we can all thrive in motherhood and home/family life if we keep working at it.

In today’s post, I want to talk about balancing family demands and responsibilities, while cultivating our personal lives. Balancing family and personal life is a challenge that many of us face as we expand and grow, but it isn’t impossible to cultivate a life that reflects all of our values, beliefs and desires. With prayer, wisdom, and a lot of intentional effort, it is possible to achieve a harmonious balance and consistency in this area of our lives.

Here are some guiding principles that help me greatly and I hope they’ll be an encouragement to you too. At the end of each point, I’ll suggest an action which I hope will help you to start thinking about ways that you can add more balance to your own life.

Decide what is important to you and your family

I’d begin by looking at your overall family and personal WHY. Knowing what is important to you personally, and to your family is the first step to identifying where you want to put your energy and resources. In the beautiful confetti flying chaos of raising a family, it is easy to lose sight of the bigger picture that supports and knits your dreams and ideals together with your current reality. Managing multiple daily commitments, activities, social events, plans and relationships under one household can be an extremely demanding and overwhelming responsibility.

In the midst of all the hustle and bustle of moving from room to room, and in and out of the front door, it can honestly feel like we are living in a whirlwind with no idea where everyone will eventually land. Having a family mission and regularly reviewing it, has helped to give our days purpose and helped to structure out what those days will look like. It doesn’t always flow perfectly, but it gives us a blueprint to follow and come back to during the busy and overwhelming days. It also sets as a powerful mirror that reflects back to us where we are spending our time, money and energy.

Once you have decided on what is important to you and WHY, you can build in actionable steps taking into account that season of life that you are currently living in. Having a mutual understanding with your husband about this foundational area of your lives helps you to eliminate the things that don’t serve you, and get excited about the things that do!

Action: Purchase your family mission statement today and start thinking and working through the key areas of your life that you want to build up.

Seek God first

The foundation of balance in life for us as Christians begins with our relationship with God. Matthew 6:33 reminds us to “seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.” I’ve found that when we look at life from a biblical worldview, i.e. asking “how does this first serve God and bring Him glory?” It helps to clarify and eliminate options that don’t serve this goal.

Seeking God first is the cornerstone of balancing family and personal life and this is not just for the social activities that we engage in, but for the way in which we guide, teach and nurture our children. When we have children and they start growing up, the clubs and extra- curricular activities become the thing that drain a lot of parents time and energy. We want our children to have the best chance at everything, and we are so passionate about exposing them to all the possibilities that this world has to offer. However, sometimes this can work against the family harmony, finances and balance.

By prioritising time with God through prayer, reading the Bible, and worship, we gain the wisdom and perspective that helps us to set the right priorities based on the season that we are in. We are reminded of what the first thing is, and we are reassured that God sees us and our household. He loves us, He will help our children to grow and thrive, and we do not need to go into overdrive in the quest of keeping them occupied. The Lord tenderly reminds us that He is all that we need to make our family feel loved and supported while, also attending to our personal needs, desires and prayer points.

When we seek God first, we are reminded of His peace and grace, which allows us to cultivate a sense of gratitude and contentment, even amidst the busyness of motherhood. It encourages us to be more present with our children and spouse, recognising the value in each one of them, and in the moment. Ultimately, placing God at the center helps us create a balanced, joyful, and fulfilling life that reflects His love and purpose, and this makes us more focused, and better equipped to handle the specific responsibilities, challenges and blessings that come with our unique family life.

Action: Set some time aside early in the morning or late at night to journal, and pray, asking God to help you seek Him first in your family life. What is unique to your family situation in this season that needs your time, energy and resources? We don’t need to do all the things that others are doing if it doesn’t flow well for us right now.

Discuss, and prioritise your roles

I remember feeling very frustrated and limited in my role as a mother because I couldn’t move about as freely as my husband. Typically, he picks himself up and he goes wherever he has to go, and does whatever he needs to do without an entourage. Simple tasks like getting into the car, popping the supermarket, going to the post office, working without interruptions are all easy for him because he doesn’t have to consider carrying the kids around with him. That part is covered by me.

I take on that weight and on some days I just feel so tired of it all lol. The constant talking sends me over the edge and I miss the days when I could just drive in peace and run quick errands. Yet when I think of it from a biblical perspective, and from the perspective of mother, I am encouraged to remember that my children are a blessing, and they like to spend time with me. I think about what the role of mother entails and it helps me to open my heart to appreciate, love and slow down as I navigate the day with my children.

Understanding the various roles that God has entrusted to us is key. Wife, mother, daughter, friend, and individual are but a few of the roles that most of us are privileged to experience. Understanding my role as a woman, as defined by biblical principles, profoundly helps me balance my family and personal life. As a Christian mum, embracing my God-given identity and purpose brings clarity and direction when I know what the Bible says about my role.

Recognising that I am called to be a helper, nurturer, and a source of strength within my home allows me to prioritise my family’s needs while also valuing my personal growth and well-being. Slowing down to love, correct and enjoy my children blesses and comforts a part of me, of which I am so grateful to experience. There are several times when I do need moments to myself and understanding this helps me establish healthy boundaries, ensuring I don’t lose myself in the responsibility of daily life.

It reminds me to seek God’s wisdom and strength in fulfilling my duties, whether it’s through nurturing my children, supporting my husband, or cultivating my personal talents and interests. Knowing that God doesn’t want us to fail is so encouraging. Within embracing our roles, we can find joy and fulfillment in serving our families and pursuing our passions, creating a balance that honours God and enriches our lives. This balance is not about perfection but about faithfulness and grace, knowing that through Christ, we can manage and enjoy our responsibilities.

Additionally, understanding our various roles helps us to appreciate the unique qualities God has instilled in us as a women, such as empathy, intuition, and compassion. These traits enable us to connect deeply with our families and communities, building strong relationships. Embracing our role also means acknowledging our worth and the importance of self-care, which is essential for maintaining the energy and joy needed to serve our family effectively.

Action: take some time to reflect on the various roles that you play, and what you do in each of them. Just look at how much God has put in and around you! You are blessed! Next, if there are some areas that are causing stress or anxiety speak to your spouse about it to see if you can either change the dynamic, or get some support in that area.

Plan and prepare days or moments for yourself

This point is important and very practical. Grab a calendar and jot down all the things that a month entails- outings, work, celebrations etc. Planning days or moments for yourself as a mother is important for the below reasons:

  1. Self-Care: Taking time for yourself allows you to recharge and maintain your physical and mental health. Parenting is demanding, and without regular self-care, you risk burnout, stress, and even health issues. Self care is different for everyone. Identify a few things that encourage you to feel like you are thriving and work on actioning them in baby steps. You’ll feel so revitalised and it’ll set a reminder to your brain that you don’t need to be forgotten in the midst of it all.
  2. Role Modeling: By prioritising your moments, you demonstrate to your children the importance of balancing responsibilities and personal well-being. I believe that it is important to teach them this in a healthy way as it is part of a life lesson. They learn that God created mummy to love and raise us, but she is also a person who needs God’s love, help and strength. This teaches them valuable life skills about self-worth and healthy habits.
  3. Maintaining Identity: It’s easy to lose your sense of self when focusing solely on your family. Planning personal time can help you stay connected to your interests, hobbies, and passions, maintaining your individual identity beyond motherhood. I don’t see this as a negative thing at all. When we connect naturally with the things that we personally enjoy outside of our children, we get to bring them into our world as they witness a different side to us and it’s beautiful. When you take care of yourself, you’re better equipped to take care of your family. A well-rested, happy, and healthy mother can provide more effective, patient, and loving care to her children.
  4. Stress Management: Scheduled personal time can help manage stress by providing regular breaks and opportunities to decompress. This is certainly true for me when I go on my regular walks or runs. Simply being outdoors helps to diffuse my thoughts and gain fresh perspective on things.
  5. Enhanced Relationships: Every so often, time away from our daily routines can improve relationships within the family. It gives space for appreciation to grow which leads to more meaningful interactions when we are with our families.
  6. Personal Growth: We are always learning, and can take time out to learn new things as mothers. It enriches us and helps us to build community. By taking some time out to build this area of our lives over time provides opportunities for personal development. Whether learning new skills, pursuing education, or engaging in self-reflection, personal time is crucial for our growth.
  7. Mental Health: Regular breaks and personal time are vital for maintaining good mental health. They provide opportunities to process emotions, reduce anxiety, and improve overall mental well-being. I have found that journaling and prayer in these moments have been a real blessing.

Action: Have a look through your family calendar and see where you can slot in an afternoon, a morning, and hour or two for yourself and set it in there as an important activity that you agree on with your husband.

Communicate with Love

It can be hard sometimes to communicate to your husband that you need more assistance in an area, or that you need him and the kids to pick up a particular responsibility, but open and loving communication with our family is essential. Setting some time aside to speak with our husbands and share our needs in an encouraging way helps us to feel heard and valued in family life. This is important because as mum’s we are an integral part of our family unit, and so it’s healthy for us to practice exercising our voice when it comes to the area of communication.

Some areas where I have had to learn to communicate clearly and lovingly are:

  1. Delegation and Collaboration: Encouraging the whole family to be involved in household tasks is something that I am trying to be so consistent in because it is a genuine help to me as much as it is training for them. Often, I can do it and much quicker, however it doesn’t always help to ease my load so we work hard to encourage team effort, teaching our children the value of teamwork and responsibility. This not only lightens your load but also strengthens family bonds.
  2. Learning to say no: It’s okay to say no to additional commitments that do not align with your priorities. It’s not always easy, but we have to be sensitive the times, seasons and moments of our lives and decide accordingly. Seeking discernment through prayer to know when to say yes and when to say no is so liberating because we realise that we are in control of our schedules and the rhythm of our days. If balance is something that we are trying to build, all things need to align to that goal.
  3. Rely on community: Another point that isn’t always logistically easy for a lot of us. We are not meant to walk on this journey alone, and we can lean on others for support. Galatians 6:2 encourages us to “carry each other’s burdens.” Don’t hesitate to seek help from friends, mentors, or church family. It is a great encouragement to the heart, and in some cases can come at just the time when you need to be refreshed.

Action: Are there any of these points that you can start on?

Balancing family and personal life is an ongoing journey! It requires wisdom, patience, and grace. By seeking God’s guidance and applying these principles, I hope you can find a fulfilling balance that honours Him and enriches you and your family’s life.

Speak to you soon and here’s to thriving in this beautiful season that we are in.

Alethea x-o

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Why is motherhood so hard?

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Motherhood is a journey filled with unparalleled joy, deep deep love, moments of sheer wonder, and an equal measure of complete unpredictability and overwhelm. The word itself evokes a flood of emotions that fills our hearts in the most beautiful way. But I’ve got to be real: motherhood also brings tremendous exhaustion, doubt, and sometimes a deep sense of inadequacy.

Can I be even more honest? This has got to be one of the most challenging roles that I have ever undertaken. As a Christian mother, I often find myself asking God, “Why does this feel so hard and overwhelming?” “Why don’t I always look and feel as though I am at ease on this journey- and I am only 6 years in!”

In this post, I wanted to share some thoughts on the challenging moments in motherhood from an honest and authentic place, as well as from the perspective of the redemptive and transforming hope that we have in Christ.

The Weight of Responsibility in motherhood

As I reflect on this, I believe that one of the primary reasons motherhood feels so hard is due to the immense responsibility it carries. From the very moment I found out I was expecting my first child and boy, my brain naturally went into overdrive. An overwhelming sense of responsibility took hold of me because suddenly, here I was, entrusted with the life and well-being of a whole tiny human – made in God’s image. The weight of making the right decisions—whether it’s about health, education, or instilling values in our children can feel incredibly heavy on our hearts. I now have three boys and I am always thinking about ways to train and nurture good character in them. We go to bed with a lot on our minds, and wake up with our brains running at 100 miles per hour.

“Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old, he will not depart from it.” Proverbs 22:6

This verse both inspires and instructs us to be diligent in our parenting. One of my take aways from this verse is the power of habits in the area of training. No matter what it is- good or bad, we are training our children to believe, accept and understand life from a particular perspective. The seeds we sow now, will be implanted in their hearts and shape their future later on. Being faithful to trust that God will water these seeds in their hearts helps to ease the anxiety and overwhelm that comes with such a responsibility.

While we play a significant role in our children’s lives, ultimately, their journey is in God’s hands. He loves them even more than we do, and He has a plan for their lives. God is sovereign and He works all things for our good; even our parenting blunders!

Often, the weight of responsibility also falls upon us when it comes to home management. Balancing the task of maintaining a clean home while looking after children can feel like a never-ending battle. There are days when the laundry piles up, toys are scattered everywhere, and the dishes seem to multiply each time we walk through the kitchen. It’s easy to stress about keeping everything spotless, but I’ve learned to adjust my expectations and find a balance that works for my family.

To ease some of the stress in this area, we can focus on creating a home that is functional and comfortable rather than perfect. I’ve started involving my children in the cleaning and laundry process. It not only lightens my load but also teaches them responsibility. We turn chores into fun activities, like having a race to see who can pick up the most toys or playing music while we clean. It’s not always smooth sailing, but by embracing a bit of mess and finding joy in the process, I’ve discovered that a clean home and happy children can coexist, even if it means things aren’t always picture-perfect. This approach has brought more peace and laughter into our home, reminding me that the goal is not perfection, but a loving and nurturing environment, and a balance that helps me to carry my load well.

The Sacrifice of Self

Motherhood requires so much self-sacrifice. From the moment conception occurs, our body begins to change in remarkable ways. Hormonal shifts cause everything from morning sickness to mood swings. The body starts to make room for the growing baby, which often leads to discomfort and pain. As the baby grows, organs shift, the spine adjusts, and our bodies carry additional weight. Stretch marks, swelling, and changes in skin texture are all things that we have to deal with- not to mention the moment of birth and all that comes with it. It truly is an extraordinary journey.

There are sleepless nights, countless nappy changes, and a never-ending list of demands. There are some days when I feel like I’ve lost myself completely. My own dreams and desires often take a backseat to the needs of my children. On one particularly challenging day, I remember looking at my tired face in the mirror, the incoming grey hairs, postpartum hair loss and thinking “wow, I feel like I have lost so much”.

The things I once enjoyed—reading a good book, going for a jog, even just taking a quiet moment to myself—have became rare luxuries with very young children. The sacrifice is very real, and yet I am humbled as I think of this role as a mere shadow of the life of Christ and all He had to give up so we could have life in Him. His sacrifice and death meant life for us! What a great call when we walk down this path. We are called to lay down our lives for our children, but in doing so, we must also remember to find time to replenish our spirits and care for ourselves, seeking strength and renewal in our relationship with Christ.

The demands of motherhood can make it seem like there’s no room for anything else. But over time, I’ve learned the importance of self-care. Finding time for myself, even in small ways, helps me to recharge. Whether it’s spending a few minutes in prayer and reflection each morning or taking a walk in the evening, these moments help me to center myself and draw closer to God.

Creating a “thrive list” has been a game-changer for me in navigating the demands and sacrifice in motherhood. This list includes all the things that bring me joy and fulfillment such as reading a good book, taking a walk in nature, enjoying a hot cup of tea, or spending quiet time in prayer. By intentionally setting aside time to engage in this, I ensure that I don’t lose myself in the daily responsibilities of motherhood. It’s a reminder that nurturing my own well-being is essential, not only for me but also for my ability to be the best mother I can be to my boys. Making space for what I love helps me to thrive, maintaining a sense of balance and joy in the beautiful chaos of raising children.

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The Battle Against Perfectionism

One of the areas that can make motherhood feel so hard in today’s world, is the pressure to be the “perfect” mother because of what we see online and on the television. Social media often bombards us with images of seemingly flawless families and this can make us question our own abilities and worth. It’s filled with images of spotless homes, gourmet meals, and perfectly behaved children as people share their highlight reels. It’s easy to fall into the trap of comparison and feel like we are not measuring up when we constantly feast on these images and videos. We worry about whether we are doing enough, whether our children are thriving, and whether we measure up to other mothers as we only think about all the things that we aren’t doing.

However, Romans 3:23 reminds us, “For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God.” We are not called to be perfect; we are called to be faithful. Our imperfections and struggles are opportunities to lean on God’s grace and to teach our children about His unconditional love and forgiveness. By embracing our imperfections, we show our children that it is okay to make mistakes and that God’s grace is sufficient for all our shortcomings.

My home might be messy, my meals might not be gourmet, and my children definitely have their difficult moments as do I, but that’s okay. Responding to God’s redemptive offer time and time again helps us to keep our hearts focused on what truly matters, which is a home filled with love.

Finding Strength in Community

Motherhood can feel isolating, especially when we face challenges that we think no one else understands. However, we are not meant to walk this journey alone. Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 tells us, “Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up.”

Finding a community of fellow mothers has been a lifeline for me. Whether through church groups, parenting classes, or online forums, sharing my experiences with others who understand has lightened my load. We laugh together, cry together, and lift each other up just in the moment we need it most.

I remember the first time I attended our first Homeschool co-op group. I was nervous and a bit reluctant to share my struggles. However, as I listened to other mothers speak about their own challenges and triumphs, I felt a sense of camaraderie. We were all in this together. Over time, these women have become a support system for me. Knowing that I’m not alone in my struggles has been incredibly comforting. That’s why this space Graced for Home is so precious. It is a space for us to join hands, be encouraged, share and be inspired to continue on our journey.

Embracing God’s Plan

Ultimately, the challenges of motherhood remind us to trust in God’s plan for our lives and the lives of our children. Jeremiah 29:11 offers us hope: “For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope.”

When motherhood feels hard, we can find solace in knowing that God is not just with our children, but with us too, guiding us through every difficulty and rejoicing with us in every triumph. By surrendering our worries and burdens to Him, we can find peace and assurance that we are not alone in this journey.

There are days when I question if I’m doing enough, if I’m making the right choices, if I’m a good mother. The chaos can be so overstimulating for me to the point of shut down. In those moments, I turn to God in prayer. I ask for His guidance, His wisdom, and His peace. I remind myself of His promises and His faithfulness. Trusting in God’s plan doesn’t mean that motherhood will be easy, but it does mean that we are not alone. He is with us, every step of the way, providing the strength and grace we need to help us raise our little ones.

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My Journey from Corporate Career to Stay-at-Home Motherhood

Published on by Alethea Awuku4 Comments

I transitioned from a thriving corporate career in marketing and publishing, to being a fulltime stay-at-home mother in 2022 because it was a choice that was profoundly important for our family. As an ambitious and capable woman with many dreams and talents, this shift has been both challenging and rewarding.

When I left my first corporate job to work part-time for my church, I was driven by such a desire to serve not only my local fellowship, but as a newly married woman, I knew that I had a heart for home and family life and wanted to pour well into it. My passion for building a joyful, adventurous, and successful life for my tribe became a priority to me. I wanted to learn how to be intentional in creating a nurturing environment and focus on mapping out and bringing to life our unique family values.

Alongside this, my love for marketing and communications remained strong. I often felt the tension between pursuing this interest, and focusing solely on my home life. But what if there didn’t need to be a choice? What if I could beautifully and carefully blend the two while remaining authentic to who I am, and my journey as a woman, Christian, wife, mother, daughter and friend?

I have always had a natural ability in communications, and connecting with others in my own way. My husband encouraged me to pick up my love for this again and document my journey of growth during this transformative season of motherhood so here I am. Slowly, faithfully and authentically showing up as me- Alethea. Blogging is a real gift in the sense that it provides a space for us to have a creative release, as well as building a community of likeminded people who can journey along with us.

One of my worries about being a stay-at-home mother was how we would thrive financially (as this was one of our family goals). I was also deeply insecure about being at home because up until then, I believed that success for me as a woman was only linked to my output in a corporate office. Blogging has released all of that for me and has proven to be a vehicle that has unlocked financial blessing for us as a family, and we see so much potential in it! I believe we can thrive wherever we are. It requires hard work and wholehearted dedication, but it’s possible to build a fulfilling life from what God has placed in our hands, minds, and hearts.

I am a stay-at-home mother and a homeschooling mum to three beautiful boys. Our goal isn’t to become millionaires; if I am honest, the pursuit of wealth can be so exhausting and we want to take stock of where we are using all of our energy. Instead, I aim to create a meaningful, sustainable, and slow-paced income that allows us to feel grateful for our achievements, and build on our goals slowly; all through blogging!

I want to help other beautiful mamas who feel the heart to be based from home to build their families that they can absolutely do this! Staying at home and building a life from there is just as valuable as having a corporate career. We can build systems that serve our family values, and we can earn incomes from home, and build a wonderful community all at the same time.

Life is for living and we want to live it to the fullest with our favourite people.

We don’t want to be chained to a draining 9-5 with no freedom.

We also don’t want to be chained to our laptops, hustling 24/7 to build businesses all in the quest to achieve more and more and more.

I’m here to encourage and help you build a sustainable business that not only has financial blessing attached to it, but gives you peace, enjoyment and freedom to live your dream life without overwhelm. Personally, I don’t want hustle culture – it isn’t suited to me. I don’t want boss babe. I don’t want to be on the hamster wheel, or in front of flashing lights. My heart leans towards the simple, deep and quiet.

You also were not made to spend your life working and pouring into a life that you don’t enjoy. God has put so much in you, and you can connect with that, do work you LOVE, get paid really well for it, and serve your family in a way that works for you- all through blogging.

You can start a blog too and make money from home while helping others too.

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God Bless,

Alethea

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How to create a fun learning environment for kids

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Cultivating a space where curiosity thrives, imaginations soar, and hearts are touched by the wonders of God’s creation is an incredible process to be part of. As mums we have the opportunity to provide that for our children yet at the same time, it can feel overwhelming when we think of our tidy homes being transformed into a playground for little hands, minds and feet. Creating a fun learning environment is totally doable in any environment, and with a few systems and strategies in place, we can transform pockets of areas, and most importantly our atmosphere to bring life to all the souls that dwell in it.

I lean toward minimalism, but I have still found a few ways to make room for play and imagination in my home. In today’s post I am sharing some ideas that we have incorporated into our space to make learning fun for our 3 boys.


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  1. Use colourful, relatable and engaging decorations: Decorating a wall or part of it with beautiful thought provoking artwork helps to spark the imagination. Incorporating bright colours within the learning space such as posters, artwork, and educational materials related to the subjects your children are studying is useful for igniting further interest in that area. So take your time to search for beautiful imagery, because it’ll not only be visually beautiful and inspiring to look at, but it’ll naturally lead to a conversation about the creativity, wisdom and unmatched power of God.
  2. Incorporate Games and Interactive Activities: Integrate educational games, puzzles, board games, and interactive learning activities that make learning feel like play. These can also include scavenger hunts, role-playing games, and simulations. Teaching on and learning about subjects such as Maths, English, History and Science can be brought to life by incorporating hands on activities. This just cements the information and children are more likely to remember facts and information when it is presented in a vivid way. The boys love learning in a very hands on way, and with my kinesthetic learner, group activities, and hands on activities work really well.
  3. Create a Cozy Reading Nook: Design a comfortable and inviting reading area with bean bags, pillows, rugs, and shelves stocked with a variety of books, including fiction, non-fiction, and picture books. This could be in the children’s bedrooms, or in the living area next to the sofa. Reading nooks serve as a personal sanctuary (no matter how small or simple it is) and encourages regular quiet reading time which is great for everyone! It helps to break reading and learning out of a box and reinforces the truth that learning can and does happen everywhere!
  4. Utilise Hands-on Learning Materials: Providing manipulatives, such as blocks, LEGO, puzzles, and art supplies, that children can use to explore concepts in a tactile and hands-on manner is great for creating a fun learning environment. They are so useful for engaging the mind during down time or “gap moments” before something else is scheduled to take place. I have found that my boys are always engaged for a while as it really suits their learning style.
  5. Integrate Technology in a Purposeful Way: Incorporating educational apps, interactive whiteboards, educational videos, and digital resources can enhance learning experiences and allow children to explore topics in innovative ways. The boys love watching Science Max at Large, Dude Perfect, Superbook, Dr Bionics and Science Planet.
  6. Outdoor Learning Spaces: Taking advantage of outdoor spaces for learning activities whenever possible is a must if you want to create a fun learning environment for children. They love to run, jump, dive, create and so much more. If you don’t have a garden or balcony space, the park or fields, trails are absolutely great for getting everyone outdoors for fresh air and fun. You can also conduct science experiments, go on nature walks, get involved in gardening projects, or art sessions in the backyard or local parks. The boys attend forest school once a week and really enjoy swinging, jumping, building dens, playing in mud and working on craft activities.
  7. Incorporate Music and Movement: Music, songs, and movement activities are so important for children as they make learning complex information really fun and easy to remember (think of times tables, poems, languages science information). A quick search online can yield so many results and helps to to enhance learning and energise the atmosphere. Create playlists with educational songs or encourage children to create their own music related to the topics they’re studying!
  8. Celebrate Achievements and Milestones: Recognising and celebrating our children’s achievements, progress, and efforts with praise, rewards, certificates, or special activities can make their learning experience fun. Positive recognition boosts motivation and fosters a sense of accomplishment. We use stickers, and an achievement “trophy” that they boys can earn when they go above and beyond to do a particular work without prompt.
  9. Encourage Collaboration and Teamwork: Providing opportunities for the children to work together on projects, to solve problems collaboratively, and to share their ideas and knowledge with one another is important when trying to build a fun community based environment. We have regular “sports days” in our garden which is so much fun. It gets very competitive which adds to my fun haha.
  10. Rotate Learning Centers: Set up different learning stations or centers with activities related to various subjects or skills. Rotate these centers periodically to keep the environment fresh and exciting. We all need change once in a while to freshen our minds and give us new inspiration. Children are no different. When we change up the space every now and again it invites new energy into activities, and I have found that engagement and focus is also improved.

I hope these tips and ideas have been helpful by incorporating these elements into your learning environment, you can create a space where children feel excited, motivated, and eager to explore and learn! Are there any other things that you do to make learning fun for your children?

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5 ways to be productive at home

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Finding Grace in the Chaos: Productivity Tips for the Christian Mother.

Being productive at home is essential for maintaining efficiency, organisation, and overall well-being. As Christian mothers, we are juggling numerous responsibilities: nurturing children, maintaining a household, perhaps working from home, and most importantly, fostering a spiritual environment for our families. In the midst of this whirlwind, finding ways to be productive at home can often feel like a daunting task. However, with a little organisation, a lot of trial and error and grace, it’s entirely possible to manage our time effectively and create a peaceful, thriving, productive home.

Whether you’re homeschooling, managing a home business, or simply trying to keep up with daily chores and tasks, these tips will guide you towards more organised and fulfilling days. Let’s transform our homes into spaces where faith, love, and productivity coexist harmoniously. Here are some quick fire tips to help us achieve this.

Streamline your routine

Simplify your daily tasks by creating a streamlined routine. Identify repetitive tasks and find ways to automate or batch them to save time and energy. Establishing a consistent schedule for chores, meal preparation, and other household responsibilities can help you stay organised and productive.

Declutter Regularly

Keep clutter at bay by decluttering your home on a regular basis. Take time to purge unused or unnecessary items. You can start small and pick a draw or corner of the house. Organising your belongings in a way that maximizes space and functionality doesn’t just provide a clutter-free environment, but it promotes a sense of calm and clarity, making it easier to focus and enjoy your living space.

Prioritise Multi-Functional Solutions:

Opt for multi-functional furniture, storage solutions, and appliances to maximise space and efficiency in your home. Look for versatile pieces that serve multiple purposes, such as a storage ottoman that doubles as extra seating, and a place for toys and games, or a fold-down desk that transforms into a dining table. Choosing multi-functional solutions allows you to make the most of your space without sacrificing functionality.

Create Zones for Efficiency:

Divide your home into zones based on functionality to optimise efficiency and organisation. Designate specific areas for activities such as work, relaxation, and play, ensuring that each zone is tailored to its intended purpose. Creating designated zones helps minimize distractions and promotes productivity by providing dedicated spaces for different activities. Sharing our living space with children doesn’t mean that our home can’t feel calm and organised. We can create fun zones for them, as well as more minimal areas that serve the purpose of relaxation, rest and productivity.

Embrace Minimalism

Embracing a minimalist mindset helps us to prioritise quality over quantity and to focus on what truly adds value to our lives. If it is your preference, curating a home environment that is clutter-free and conducive to peace and tranquility can help your mind feel much calmer. Embracing minimalism allows you to simplify your life, reduce stress, and cultivate a sense of contentment with less.

I hope you enjoyed this quick fire style post! I hope that you’ll be able to build on some of the points and they help enhance efficiency, organisation and productivity in your life.

Here’s to an ever enriched life.

God bless,

Alethea