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Will i find fulfillment in motherhood?

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Today as I struggled to get all boys to bed for the night I thought to myself, wow – motherhood is a beautiful and transformative journey, and it is also one of the most challenging sacrificial roles I have ever known. The endless nappies, sleepless nights, mental gymnastics, and constant demands often leaves me feeling not only exhausted and depleted, but questioning whether this is the place where joy can truly be found.

In the midst of the chaos, there is a deep fulfillment to be found—a fulfillment that goes beyond the immediate, and touches on the eternal. As Christian mothers, we are called not only to care for our children but to see the sacred in the everyday moments and train them up in the ways of the Lord, even when it feels really really hard (and most days, it does). I believe that God created and uses the role of mother to not only refine and transform us into the best version of ourselves, but to help us see His nature and character as we fall short daily.

It’s in those very moments of weakness—when patience runs thin, when exhaustion settles heavy—that God’s grace meets us most profoundly. Motherhood, in all its labour and sacrifices, becomes a living testimony of His strength made perfect in our weakness. The fulfillment we find is not in our perfection, but in the daily surrender, in knowing that our small acts of love and intentionality ripple through their lives into eternity.

Rocking a baby to sleep, correcting with gentleness (or firmness for the 10th time), or offering a whispered prayer over a child’s future are not insignificant; they are kingdom work. Fulfillment comes when we begin to see that this calling is less about what we accomplish in our own strength and more about how Christ shines through us as we do our best to lean wholly on Him.

What does fulfillment mean practically?

Practically, this means first learning to accept that we will not do it all perfectly. There will be days when the house is messy, the laundry undone, or tempers are tested and we are overstimulated more than we can bear. Accepting our human limitations frees us from the crushing weight of comparison and high expectations, and allows us to lean on God’s strength rather than our own.

Alongside acceptance, we can also be intentional about building rhythms into our days that anchor us in God’s presence—whether that’s beginning the morning with a short prayer before the children wake, listening to Scripture as we fold clothes, or finding small pockets of quiet to breathe and remember whose we are. Fulfillment often grows not from grand, sweeping gestures, but from the faithful repetition of ordinary acts offered to the Lord.

We can also build community into our journey, surrounding ourselves with other mothers who encourage, pray, and walk alongside us. In doing so, we are reminded that we are not alone in this calling, and that together we can point one another back to Christ when the days feel long and tiring.

Motherhood is sanctifying. The hard days do not mean failure; they are opportunities for God to grow patience, humility, and love within us. “Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance.” (James 1:2–3)

Will I be as fulfilled in motherhood? I miss my independence.

I think it’s natural for us to wrestle with the fear of “losing ourselves” in the midst of motherhood. For many, the world measures success by productivity, financial achievement, and visible recognition, and stepping into the unseen work of raising children can feel like stepping away from seen purpose. I remember processing the shock of my time no longer being my own when I had my first son, and feeling like my life was suddenly sucked into a vacuum. As much as I felt overwhelming joy and purpose in this new role, I deeply grieved the freedom and independence that I once felt, because all of a sudden, my life was under a spot light- being constantly watched by a little person!

Yet, Scripture gently reminds us that our worth is not rooted in what we do or what we earn, but in who we are in Christ. Motherhood may shift how our time and talents are expressed, but it does not erase them. In fact, it can refine and deepen them. The same skills of creativity, leadership, and problem-solving that shine in a career are often exercised in new, hidden ways at home and we can build up the courage and incremental time to explore these areas of our lives.

While the world may not applaud nappy changes, middle-of-the-night prayers, or the wisdom spoken into a child’s heart, heaven sees and honours these acts as holy work. The truth is that God does not ask us to trade fulfillment for sacrifice—He calls us to find a richer kind of fulfillment through sacrifice, one that is eternal rather than fleeting.

At the same time, embracing motherhood does not mean abandoning every dream, ambition, or calling outside the home. For some, “their own thing” might be pursued alongside motherhood in a different season or at a different pace, and that is okay. God is not wasteful; the gifts He has placed in you are not meant to be buried, but stewarded in His timing.

What motherhood does invite is a reordering of priorities—placing eternal impact above temporary accolades. It means asking not only, “What makes me feel successful?” but also, “What fruit will last beyond me?”

In this light, I am learning to see that motherhood is not the end of identity or purpose, but the widening of it. It is stepping into a calling where unseen work shapes eternal souls, and where success is measured not by titles or paychecks but by faithfulness and love. The world may not always understand or applaud this, but fulfillment in God’s design often looks different from what culture celebrates. It is slower, quieter, and sometimes hidden—but infinitely more enduring.

I hope this encourages you on your journey.

Alethea x

The invisible (yet powerful) economy of homemaking

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There’s a quiet economy at work within the walls of a home—one that doesn’t show up on pay slips, spreadsheets, or CV’s. It’s an economy of presence, peace, and provision – one that has taken a long while to settle in my own heart. Coming into marriage and home life from the path of corporate career experience and ambitions , this new path forged by my husband and I was one riddled with insecurity and uncertainty on my part. Accepting that there is also so much worth here, and also means to steward, be creative with and multiply our income breathed new life into my understanding and vision of the home economy.

Homemaking may not always earn an income, but it builds something far richer: stability, trust and belonging. The fruit of it isn’t always immediate, but it is lasting—and far-reaching and in today’s post I want to share a little bit about that.

What is a home economy?

A home economy refers to the way resources—both tangible and intangible—are managed within a household. Traditionally, it’s about how a home operates in terms of stewardship, budgeting, production, and care, all within the unique rhythms and values of a family. It’s not just about money; it’s about the whole ecosystem of a home and how it’s sustained.

A few key elements of a home economy

1. Resource management

This includes managing time, money, energy, food, space, and even emotions of all those that live in your home. Budgeting, meal planning, scheduling, and caregiving are all forms of resource stewardship that keep the household running smoothly.

2. Homemaking as production

While we often think of “production” as something that happens outside the home because it can be measured and scaled, a homemaker also produces meals, routines, clean spaces, emotional support, traditions, and a sense of safety. These things are intangible, and they form the culture and stability of a home.

3. Values-based priorities

Every home has its own “economic system” based on what it values most—peace, hospitality, learning, sports, health, faith, or rest etc. The home economy reflects those values in how time and energy are spent. It’s a slow, often invisible investment in people and purpose.

4. Relational economy

At the heart of the home economy is relationship. Time spent nurturing children, building a marriage, or hosting others isn’t transactional—it’s transformational. It builds emotional wealth and spiritual inheritance that can’t be bought.

So yes, I don’t currently earn a paycheck anymore in the way that I have grown up to know it because in this season, my work is to build up my home economy so that as a family unit we work really well.

There are no deposits with my name on them. No promotions, no raises, no quarterly reviews. No line in our family’s budget that’s “mine,” and for a long time, that quietly haunted me.

While I pour out my days in love and labour — in lunch bags, washing and wiping — a small voice sometimes whispers: “But you’re not contributing. You’re just dependent.”

I used to have my own income. My own purchases. My own ability to say, I’ve got this.

Now, as a full-time homemaker, I offer different gifts: patience, consistency, planning and organising. peacekeeping, cooking, teaching. praying for and with my family, giving big deep hugs, love and smiles to my family. These are not things you can quantify — or add to a bank account.

And that’s exactly what makes this role hard to value in a world that ties worth to a salary.

Sometimes I second-guess even small purchases. I hesitate before I press “buy,” not because I don’t trust my husband’s love, but because something in me wonders if I’ve earned the right to spend. Even in a marriage built on grace, that weight can linger.

And yet, here’s what I’m learning:

I may not bring home a paycheck — but I bring everything else.

I bring a steady presence.
I bring a safe home.
I bring meals, prayers, structure, softness, and sacrifice.

And most importantly, I bring my whole self.

That’s not financial dependence. That’s soul investment.

A Kingdom Perspective

The world sees one income and a woman who has “given it all up”, but God sees a household held together by mutual trust and quiet faithfulness. In James 1:17, we’re reminded:
“Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of lights.”

The income we live on is His. The work I do here — unseen, unpaid — is also His. There is no hierarchy in the Kingdom economy. There is only obedience. And while I may not get paid in pounds, I remind myself often that I’m being paid in something far deeper: Moments. Memories. Heart-shaping. Soul-growing. A front-row seat to childhood, and my life.

So if you’re feeling the ache of not earning…

If you’re wondering if you’re doing “enough” because you’re not bringing in money… Remember: your value is not attached to a paycheck. You are not a burden — you are a builder. You are not dependent — you are entrusted.

God is not asking you to bring income.
He’s asking you to bring faithfulness, trust and your heart each day.

And friend, that’s exactly what you’re doing.

Reframing the perspective for stay at home mums

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Choosing motherhood and homemaking is far from a wasted life.

In a world that often equates success with visibility, speed, and accolades, choosing a life of motherhood and homemaking can feel quietly radical.

It’s a path full of unseen moments—toys everywhere, whispered prayers of desperation, patient corrections, and countless acts of service that rarely make headlines. But what the world overlooks, God treasures. This life—your life—is not small. It is sacred.

This post is an invitation to see your everyday with new eyes. To shift from simply surviving the tasks of home and motherhood to embracing them as part of a deeper calling. You’ll find encouragement to anchor your heart in truth, to find purpose in the small things, and to remember that your role carries eternal weight—even when no one else sees it.

What I feel

“This matters”. It is a constant, inner dialogue between my heart and mind—reminding myself that this path, though often unseen or undervalued, holds deep meaning and purpose.

Culture tells me that a successful life looks a certain way—the way of the majority. Because it has been glamorised, measured, and praised, so anything outside that mold can feel small or insignificant.

But the truth is, shaping a home is no small task. Nurturing children, creating peace in a space, building traditions, and tending to the needs of a family requires wisdom, strength, and a kind of love that doesn’t always receive applause. There are no promotions or performance reviews here—only the quiet, sacred rhythms of service and presence.

Still, there are days when the lies whisper louder than truth. Days when dishes pile up, children cry non stop, don’t listen and fight all day, and the world outside feels like it’s rushing ahead while I move slowly, wearily and deliberately, through another load of laundry. I sometimes wonder, Is this enough? Am I enough? And in those moments, I have to claw my way back to what I know deep down: that the unseen work of love is never wasted.

I’m learning that success isn’t always visible, and won’t always feel instant. Sometimes it looks like a child who feels safe, a marriage strengthened by small acts of kindness, or a home filled with peace and a warm meal rather than “perfect”. These things can’t be measured by certificates of well done or accolades, but they matter—deeply. I may not be building a career by the world’s standards, but I’m building something far more eternal: hearts, values, and a legacy of love.

Being at home is a deeply meaningful calling that I am finding is not just shaping my children, but also changing me.

Here are a few thoughts that I hold onto to encourage myself on this journey. I hope they’ll also help you in reframing your perspective if you are a stay at home mum.

1. Recognise the eternal value of your role

It’s easy to overlook the significance of what you do when so much of it happens behind closed doors and without recognition. But motherhood and homemaking are not just tasks—they are eternal investments. Instead of seeing homemaking as mundane, view it as a God-given calling to shape and nurture your family. Proverbs 31:27 says, “She watches over the affairs of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness.”

Every meal prepared, every gentle and firm correction, every bedtime story and prayer whispered over a sleeping child is a seed planted into a soul. Yes, these quiet, repetitive acts may seem ordinary, and can get tiresome, but in God’s eyes, they are weighty with purpose. We are shaping hearts, anchoring lives, and reflecting His love in the most tangible way. We shouldn’t underestimate the eternal value of our role—it reaches far beyond what the eye can see.

2. Shift from “just a mum” to “A builder of the home”

I heard a good friend of mine refer to herself in this way and it struck me deeply. I thought “wow what a beautiful and thoughtful way to describe your presence and role in your home”.

Maybe you’ve heard it said,—or have said it yourself—with a shrug: “I’m just a mum” ” I stay at home with the kids”. After your journey of pregnancy and childbirth, that phrase just carries a weight of dismissal that doesn’t belong. Motherhood is not a lesser calling; it is a foundational one. How quick we are to forget this.

When we shift our mindset from just a mum to a builder of the home, we begin to see our days differently. We are not merely managing messes—we are laying bricks of stability, love, and faith. We are crafting the atmosphere our families breathe. A builder is intentional, strong, and purpose-driven—and that is exactly what you are. You’re not filling time; you’re forming lives.

The world may minimise homemaking, or trivialise it, but Scripture elevates it. Titus 2:4-5 encourages women to love their families and care for their homes. Instead of saying, “I’m just a stay-at-home mum,” say, “I am building a home filled with love, faith, and peace.” Our work is foundational to a thriving household.

3. Find purpose in the small things

So much of homemaking and motherhood is made up of the small things—folding socks, wiping counters, answering endless questions, preparing yet another meal. It can feel unnoticed, repetitive, and, at times, insignificant. I’ve had days when I felt like I would explode with the overwhelm, yet it’s in these very moments that purpose quietly blooms. I know that God doesn’t just measure worth by grand gestures or public applause; He sees faithfulness in the hidden places, and I have to remind myself that when I choose to serve with love in the mundane, I am living out a holy calling. The small things—done with a willing heart—are not small to Him. They are sacred building blocks of a life poured out in love.

When the days feel heavy or unnoticed, pause and whisper a short prayer over what you’re doing—“Lord, let this simple act be an offering of love.” It helps shift your focus from the task to the purpose behind it. Even a folded towel can become holy ground when done with intention and grace.

4. Prioritise personal & spiritual growth

In the busyness of serving everyone else, it’s easy to forget that your soul needs tending too. But personal and spiritual growth aren’t luxuries—they’re lifelines. This is one of the areas that I struggle in often due to sheer exhaustion and lack of motivation at times.

Yet when we pour out daily for our families, we also need space to be poured into- well. Growing in your faith, learning new things, or simply taking quiet moments to reflect are not selfish acts—they’re wise and necessary. A nourished soul creates a nourished home. The more rooted you are in truth, the more grace, patience, and love you’ll have to give. You can’t pour from an empty cup, and God never asks us to run dry.

I start my day—even if it’s just five minutes—with a verse, a journal, or a whispered prayer before the house wakes. It doesn’t have to be long or perfect. What matters is the consistency of showing up and making space for your heart to breathe.

5. See homemaking as a ministry

It can take time to view our homes as a place of hospitality, love, and discipleship. I used to believe that anything worth doing had to be seen and felt by the masses, however ministry doesn’t only happen on stages or in mission fields; it happens right here—in our kitchens, gardens, and bedtime routines. When you begin to see your home as holy ground, the ordinary transforms into something sacred. Your faith is lived out in real time, shaping hearts in the most personal and lasting way.

We are the first example of Christ our families see day in and day out. Our kindness teaches grace, our patience teaches peace, and our sacrifice teaches love over time. Though this kind of ministry may not be noticeable immediately, its impact reaches far into eternity. It’s important to train our minds to start viewing our daily work through the lens of worship. Whisper this simple reminder to yourself: “This is not just work—it’s worship. This is not just a house—it’s a haven.” When we frame our homemaking as service to God, even the smallest acts take on eternal significance.

6. Embrace the season you’re in

Ecclesiastes 3:1 tells us, “There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens.” It’s a verse I think about often because it helps to center me in the truth that nothing truly lasts forever. Motherhood and homemaking may feel all-consuming now, but this season is temporary. Every season of life brings its own rhythm—some fast and full, others slow and stretching. It’s easy to look ahead and long for the next stage, or to look back and grieve what’s passed (guilty). Yet there is beauty and purpose right where we are.

God doesn’t waste seasons.

Whether you’re in the thick of newborn days, navigating school years, or adjusting to a quieter home, there is something He wants to teach you here. Embracing the season you’re in doesn’t mean it’s easy—it means we are willing to see it as meaningful, even in the mess, the mundane, or the mystery.

When we stop resisting the present and start receiving it, peace begins to grow. It frees us from comparison and expectation and allows us to truly live the moments we’ve been given. This season—whatever it looks like—is part of your story, part of your shaping, and part of the legacy you’re building.

Here’s a tip for you: write down three things each day that are unique to this season and thank God for them. Gratitude softens the edges and helps our hearts settle into the now.

Final thoughts

To the women quietly walking this road—those who have chosen to pour their lives into homes, children, and the unseen corners of daily life—know this: your work matters. It is not small. It is not second-rate. You are part of something sacred, something that will echo through generations. When the world questions your worth, hold fast to the truth: choosing love, presence, and faithfulness is never a wasted life. In fact, it may be the most meaningful work of all.

How to nurture a boys heart

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Nurturing my boys’ hearts is one of the most important parts of my role as their mother. As a homeschooling mum of three boys, my husband and I have the privilege of being with them daily, shaping their character and guiding them toward Christ and into being strong boys and eventually men.

Homeschooling gives us a beautiful window of time and influence to not only teach academics, but to shepherd the hearts of our sons with intention. I always remind myself that It’s not just about teaching maths and reading—it’s about helping them develop a heart that seeks after God, is resilient, loves others well, and stands firm in the Christian faith. In a world that will constantly try to define them by achievements and success, I want them to know that their true worth is found in being sons of the true King.

Seeing their hearts

When we started our homeschool journey I was so geared toward only building them up academically, but I very quickly realised that in order to build a meaningful learning experience for them, I would need to win their hearts over with love, friendship and trust. Building a relationship with each boy where I do my best to see them for their individual strengths and personalities would help strengthen their sense of safety and confidence. It isn’t easy, because most of our days are quite loud and feel chaotic, and so the last thing I want to do is notice and compliment all the great and fun things about them (just being honest!) It’s a discipline that I am working on being more intentional in.

It’s also really easy to focus on correcting behaviour all the time, but true growth happens when we understand the heart behind it. When a boy is acting out or withdrawing, it’s often a signal of something deeper—confusion, frustration, or even a need for connection. Being intentional in this area for me means, trying my best to remember to pause, ask questions, and listen with grace.

“A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” – Proverbs 15:1

Grace-based correction—rooted in relationship—helps a boy know that he’s loved, even when he makes mistakes.

Encouraging emotional honesty and empathy

Many boys are naturally active, physical learners, but they also carry deep emotions—sometimes masked by noise or movement. We’ve had to learn to give our sons language for their feelings. This helps them to communicate in a more self controlled way when they are feeling an emotion.

Creating an atmosphere of love and grace at home is also essential. I want my boys to know that our home is a safe place where they can be vulnerable, share their fears, and ask hard questions. I remind them that no mistake is too big for God’s grace and that nothing they do can separate them from His love—or mine. By showing them unconditional love, I hope to give them a glimpse of the immeasurable love of their Heavenly Father.

Conversations

Intentional conversations are another way I nurture their hearts. Whether it’s around the dinner table, during a car ride, or at bedtime, I try to engage their minds and hearts with meaningful discussions. We talk about faith, courage, kindness, and even the struggles they face, or anything random that may come to mind. I want them to know that their thoughts and feelings matter, and more importantly, that God cares about every detail of their lives.

Life skills

In raising boys, we’re not just preparing them for independence—we’re shaping their character and hearts for the life God is calling them to live. Teaching life skills within the rhythm of home and homeschool life is a sacred opportunity: a chance to model servant leadership, responsibility, and integrity. The boys are involved with learning to cook, tidying the garden and house, caring for each other and discussing life matters. As we teach our sons to work with their hands and think with wisdom, our desire and prayer is that it will help them grow into men who are not only capable but compassionate—anchored in faith, and willing to serve and work hard.

Service

Encouraging them to serve others is another way to shape their hearts for Christ. I remind them that true strength is found in humility and that leadership comes through service. Whether it’s helping a younger sibling, assisting a friend, or participating at church, I want them to experience the joy that comes from putting others before themselves. Jesus was the ultimate servant, and I pray my boys will follow in His footsteps.

Above all, I entrust their hearts to the Lord. I can do my best to teach, guide, and love them, but ultimately, their walk with God is their own. My prayer is that they will grow into men who love Jesus deeply, stand firm in truth, and live with integrity. Proverbs 3:5-6 says, “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.” That is my hope and prayer for my boys—that as they journey through life, their hearts will grow to be steadfast in Christ.

Dealing with monotony and routine as a stay at home mum

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Being a stay-at-home mum is a beautiful calling, but it often comes with the challenge of monotony. The endless cycle of laundry, cooking, cleaning, and always being switched on to care for our children can sometimes feel repetitive and even overwhelming. It’s easy to lose sight of the bigger picture when daily tasks seem to blur into one another. However, as Christian mothers, we are reminded that even in the most mundane moments, God is at work in our lives and in the lives of our families. If we truly look, we’ll find Him.

One of the most encouraging truths in Scripture is found in Colossians 3:23: “Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for human masters.” This verse reminds us that our work at home is not insignificant. Every nappy changed, every meal prepared, and every book read is an opportunity to serve God and our families with love and dedication. When we shift our perspective to see our daily tasks as acts of worship and privilege, we can find deeper meaning in what might otherwise seem mundane.

Gratitude helps

One way to combat the monotony of routine is to cultivate a heart of gratitude. Philippians 4:6 encourages us to bring everything to God with thanksgiving. Taking a moment each day to thank Him for the little blessings—our children’s laughter, the comfort of our home, the provision of food, hot water, clothes—can really transform our outlook. Gratitude refocuses our hearts on the goodness of God rather than the repetitiveness of our routines, and it helps us to see abundance rather than lack.

Spiritual renewal

As mothers, we pour so much into our families, but we must also allow ourselves to be filled. I’ll hold my hand up and be the first to admit that sometimes sheer exhaustion makes me demotivated to pour into myself spiritually, but spending some time in prayer, reading scripture, or even listening to worship music while doing household chores does nourish our souls and keep us connected to God. When we prioritise our relationship with Him, we are better equipped to handle the demands of daily life with patience, wisdom and joy.

Building and nurturing friendships

Finding community is another key aspect of overcoming monotony. Proverbs 27:17 says, “As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.” Whether through church groups, Bible studies, or simply connecting with other mothers, having a support system helps us navigate the challenges of motherhood. Sharing experiences, praying together, and encouraging one another can breathe new life into our routines. I’ve personally found that taking some time to speak with and laugh with friends helps me to reconnect with a different part of myself, which in turn helps me to feel refreshed.

Monotony and simple living can also be a gift to us. In a world that constantly seeks distraction and busyness, the slower rhythms of homemaking allow us to cultivate a heart of peace and contentment. When we embrace the simplicity of our daily lives, we are able to focus on what truly matters—our relationship with God and the love we share with our families. God often speaks to us in the quiet moments, in the steady rhythms of daily life, reminding us that He is present in every small act of love and service.

How to raise confident and resilient boys

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Raising confident and resilient boys in today’s world is challenging, unpredictable, full of constant adjustments, chaotic, downright exhausting, deeply fulfilling, messy and full of lots of teaching moments. As a homeschooling mum to three boys who are still babies to me (6,4 and 2 years) I am slowly learning that raising strong, capable young boys into men has become one of our aims. This isn’t about giving them an ego boost or bubble-wrapping them from failure, but about teaching them how to handle themselves when life’s inevitable bumps occur, and to deal with imperfections and bruises with grace, grit, and from a strong foundation in Christ.

Perseverance

One of the first and constant lessons that we are currently working on, is that failure and imperfection isn’t the enemy. When they get answers wrong, make a mistake or do something imperfectly, their natural response is to shut down, give up or walk away in tears because of the feelings of frustration and disappointment. In our home, my husband and I are consistent in pushing back against this and communicating to them that we celebrate mistakes (sometimes with a little treat) because they are an opportunity for us to learn and grow stronger.

When my first born son struggles with a concept during our learning time, or he colours out of the line during art time, we respond with enthusiasm because we have a chance to try again, and sometimes that is what life gives us- a chance to try again. We encourage him to know that it is ok to feel what he is feeling, but that he should never quit on himself. Resilience isn’t about never falling down; it’s about getting back up, dusting off the sawdust, and trusting that God will guide and strengthen us as we try again.

Confidence, too, is something that we are nurturing. As our boys are very young, we offer this through constant praise the majority of the time because I recognise that our hearts need to know that we are seen by those closest to us, and as their mama, it is my joy to let them know that I see them, love them, celebrate and affirm them.

There are moments when we explain that as they grow, their confidence wont come from constant praise but from real accomplishments and faith in God’s plan. So we do occasionally let them struggle and push through math problems, writing that tricky word for what feels like the hundredth time, and learning how to work together to serve one another during meal times (putting cutlery out, and setting the table). When they achieve something after working for it, the confidence sticks because they know they earned it through perseverance and God’s strength.

Service unto each other and strangers

My boys are very visual, and I quickly learnt that in order to capture their attention and imagination, it would be very helpful to give them a vision of the kind of boy and man that God is helping them to become day by day.

We usually say something along the lines of:

“God has created you for a purpose, and no challenge is too big when you walk in His strength. Keep trusting Him, keep learning, and keep growing into the man He is shaping you to be.“

“You are a warrior for Christ, and true strength comes from faith, kindness, and perseverance. No matter what happens, remember that God is always with you, guiding your steps.”

“When you do hard things, God is helping you grow stronger and stronger”.

We are all naturally self centered, and children demonstrate that to the highest degree because they are children(!), have constant legitimate needs and are under developed in their understanding, maturity and expression of their needs.

Another one of the areas that I am working on when it comes to raising resilient sons is teaching them to serve each other and other people. Serving each other doesn’t always feel pleasant because they bicker, fight and compete against one another, but by learning the discipline of service to one another, they fulfill a really important goal of our family which is to love and work together as one in our home.

When they understand that their strength, and their faculties (hands, feet, eyes, speech) are meant to be used for God’s glory it gives them an external motivation. So gentle reminders are given when we are at home and out in public to help them think outside of themselves and to see the world and people around them—whether that means helping to open the door for someone or comforting a friend who’s has been hurt— it’s all to help them develop a deep, quiet confidence that isn’t rooted in arrogance, but in purpose. Plus, let’s be honest, there’s nothing quite as humbling as helping to clean up after your brother or others! Jesus Himself taught us that true leadership comes through service, and I want my boys to follow His example, and understand the inner strength it takes to think of others.

It’s OK to cry

We are at a stage in life with our boys where crying is the resounding sound in our home, so let’s talk about emotions for a second. We are balancing the importance of them talking with us when they are upset over screaming and shouting. Simultaneously we acknowledge that being strong doesn’t mean stuffing down their feelings and pretending that they are ok when they aren’t.

Boys also need space to express frustration, sadness, and even joy without being told to “be strong.” In our home, we encourage each other to talk things through—sometimes by removing them from a tense environment because resilience isn’t about hiding emotions but trying our best to handle them in a Christ-centered way. Praying together, reading God’s Word, and seeking His wisdom helps us all to process our emotions in a way that strengthens our faith and character.

Role Models

Positive role models also play a crucial role in building resilience. Boys need to see strong, faith-filled men who exemplify integrity, perseverance, and humility. Whether it’s their father, a pastor, a coach, or a trusted mentor, having godly role models shows them what it means to live with strength and grace under pressure. When they see men who turn to God in times of struggle, who admit their mistakes, and who stand firm in their beliefs, they learn to do the same. Surrounding them with wise, godly counsel reinforces the values we teach at home and gives them examples to emulate as they grow. As they are young, we have begun that journey for them through stories and books, as well as spending quality time with daddy.

Series and books that they enjoy are Bibleman, Veggie Tales, Emmanuel’s Dream: The True Story of Emmanuel Ofosu Yeboah, Ten Boys Who Made a Difference (Lightkeepers) and much more.

Proverbs 22:6 reminds us to “train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old, he will not depart from it.” At the end of the day, our goal isn’t to raise tough guys; it’s to raise kind, courageous, and faithful men who will stand firm in a shaky world. With a lot of prayer, patience, and probably a lot more mistakes, I trust that God will shape them into exactly who He created them to be, and we look forward to celebrating the good fruit that comes from their lives!

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When doubt creeps in: Encouragement for the homeschooling mum who feels she might have made the wrong choice

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I don’t know about you, but there are some days when I look around at the chaos of our homeschool and wonder, What in the world is going on? The boys are arguing, fighting and screaming over toys, I am getting resistance with sit down book work and reading, and my youngest is determined to turn all the walls of my house into his museum of drawings. Meanwhile, I’m nursing a cold cup of coffee, a very messy kitchen (even though it was cleaned the night before), and sleepiness from waking up at 4:45am just to get a head start on the day before everyone wakes up. With fatigue, strain, frustration and overwhelm at an all time high, its easy to question whether we made the right decision to homeschool.

Some days, these are my thoughts, so first of all, I want to assure you that if you have felt any of this, you are not alone. There is no homeschooling mum on this planet (or probably even in the universe, if alien homeschooling mums exist) who hasn’t wondered at least once if she made a monumental mistake. It’s normal. We’ve all had those moments of doubt—when the curriculum doesn’t click, when the kids resist every lesson, or when we constantly feel that we are not enough. But let me remind you of something that God has been whispering to my heart lately: His grace is sufficient. Even on the hard days. Especially on the hard days. Here’s a beautiful hymn for you to tuck away in your heart.

I get it, though. It’s easy to romanticise homeschooling before we start. We picture morning devotionals with well-behaved children, afternoons spent exploring nature, and evenings reading classic literature in a cosy setting. Reality looks a little more like Weetabix smeared on every surface, (AND THEN DRYING IN A BLINK OF AN EYE!!), disruptive food requests every. five. minutes, and a “read-aloud” where you’re the only one actually listening to the story. And yet, even in the mess, there are so many beautiful moments waiting to be noticed.

A few tips and encouragement

When doubt comes knocking, I’ve found it helps to revisit why my husband and I chose this path in the first place. For me, it’s about nurturing my boys’ hearts as much as their minds. It’s about weaving our faith into their education and having the freedom to teach them in a way that honours their unique gifts and strengths. Yes, even when those gifts include making fart noises during lessons. (Lord, give me strength with these boys.)

Sometimes we just need to change our perspective. If a lesson is flopping or the kids are bouncing off the walls, maybe it’s time to pause the plan for the day. Go outside for a walk (which is my absolute go to), build a blanket fort, or get in the kitchen and bake and call it “life skills.” It all still counts. I have learnt that homeschooling isn’t about sticking rigidly to a schedule; it’s about creating a life where learning happens naturally and joyfully—well, most of the time for the children, and for us as mums.

Another thing that helps is connecting with other homeschooling mums. Join a co-op, find a support group, or just call that one friend who always “gets it.” There’s something so comforting about hearing someone else say, “Oh, me too!” We were made for community, and sharing our struggles often lightens the load.

Grace is available

Don’t forget to extend yourself some grace. God didn’t call us to this journey because He thought we would do it perfectly. He called us and wants us to depend upon Him every step of the way. Your children don’t need a perfect teacher; they need you. They need your love, your laughter, and yes, even your occasional meltdowns. (I firmly believe that seeing us apologise, pray for strength, handle difficult moments and regroup is an important life lesson for them.)

So, on the days when you’re tempted to throw in the towel, remember this: You are planting seeds, even when you can’t see the harvest yet. The hard days are part of the story, but they’re not the whole story. And who knows? Maybe one day, your children will look back on these years and thank you for the gift of learning together. They’ll remember a specific day (that you thought was pretty awful) and say that was one of the best moments of their lives. Or at least in my case they’ll remember how to bake really good cakes. Either way, you’re doing just fine, Mama. Keep going. ❤️

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I am struggling with time management

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As mothers, our days are mostly filled with a whirlwind of activities—preparing meals, caring for children, maintaining a home, possibly juggling a job, and managing countless other tasks. It’s easy to feel overwhelmed and wonder how we’ll ever get everything done! Time management can feel like an impossible task, especially when our time is no longer just our own. But take heart sis, for we are not alone in this struggle. God sees our efforts and knows the desires of our hearts. He offers us grace, not perfection, and in that grace, we can find ways to manage our time better, to honour Him, and to bring peace to our homes.

Here are four practical tips that can help you thrive more when it comes to this area of your life.

1. Prioritise your day with God at the center

It’s easy to get caught up in the busyness of life and forget to take time for God, but making Him the foundation of our days brings a profound sense of peace and purpose. Start your day with prayer or a short devotion, asking God for guidance in managing your time. Psalm 90:12 says, “Teach us to number our days, that we may gain a heart of wisdom.” By seeking God’s wisdom first, we align our priorities with His will, which can help us focus on what truly matters each day.

Imagine your day begins with the children waking up early and immediately needing your attention. Instead of jumping straight into the chaos, take five minutes to pray or read a Bible verse while they’re still in their rooms. Even a short moment of quiet time with God can change your perspective and give you the patience and wisdom to navigate the day.

2. Set realistic expectations

As mothers, we often set high expectations for ourselves, thinking we need to do it all. However, Proverbs 31, the famous chapter about the virtuous woman, reminds us that she didn’t do everything at once. She focused on what was necessary in each season of her life. Setting realistic goals for your day helps prevent burnout and allows you to appreciate your accomplishments, no matter how small they may seem.

You might have a to-do list that includes cleaning the entire house, preparing three homemade meals, and organising a playdate. This instantly creates so much overwhelm as you have to juggle these tasks as well as taking care of your children. Instead, consider focusing on one or two key tasks and letting go of the others. Maybe today, it’s just tidying up the kitchen and spending quality time with your kids. Celebrate what you’ve done rather than what you didn’t get to. It all equals success!

3. Delegate and accept help

God created us to live in community, not in isolation. Galatians 6:2 encourages us to “carry each other’s burdens,” which means it’s okay—and often necessary—to ask for help. Whether it’s involving your children in household chores, asking your spouse to take on certain tasks, or accepting help from friends or family, delegation can lighten your load and create a sense of shared responsibility within your family.

Perhaps you’re struggling to find time to cook dinner while also helping your children with their homework. Instead of trying to do both simultaneously, consider asking your spouse to handle homework time, or involve the kids in meal preparation. It might not be perfect, but it teaches them responsibility and gives you more breathing room.

4. Embrace flexibility and grace

Life with children is unpredictable, and even the best-laid plans can go awry. It’s essential to embrace flexibility and extend grace to yourself when things don’t go as planned. James 4:13-15 reminds us that we don’t know what tomorrow holds, but we can trust God with our plans. Allow yourself the freedom to adapt when necessary, and let go of the need for everything to be perfect.

You might plan a productive day, only to have your child come down with a cold, throwing all your plans out the window. Instead of feeling defeated, acknowledge that caring for your child is the priority for that day. You can reschedule other tasks, knowing that God sees your heart and honours your willingness to serve your family.

Conclusion

Motherhood is a beautiful yet challenging journey, and time management is a skill that many of us are continually developing. It takes time to find and fine tune a rhythm that works for you and your family. Remember, God’s grace is sufficient for you in every season. You are doing an incredible job, and He is with you every step of the way.

May you find peace, joy, and purpose as you navigate your days, knowing that you are held in His loving hands, and you can indeed thrive here!

Alethea

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The beauty of homemaking

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One of the beautiful things about homemaking is that as women and mothers we have the gift and the ability to create a beautiful environment in which everybody that lives in it feels loved, treated as though they belong and nurtured so they thrive.

It requires our undivided intentional attention. Our heart, our soul, our efforts, our time, our style, our sacrifice, our willingness, our openness, our strength, our lives. The beauty found in homemaking is really in our ability to personalise and tailor a wholesome life for the people closest to us, to keep loving the one that we have chosen to commit to for the rest of our lives, and to serve the people who have grown and come from our very own bodies.

It is hard, beautiful sacrificial work. It is a worthwhile work that reveals a lot within us so that we can grow and develop in character. The home stands as a testament to the beauty and life of diligent hands and a faithful heart. Within the walls of our homes, joy and sorrow are shared, burdens are lightened, and the spirit finds solace.

The dining table has the potential to become an altar of fellowship, where laughter echoes, tears are gently wiped away, and the bonds of family and friendship are strengthened over shared meals and meaningful conversations. It is in this sacred space that love is nurtured and memories are sown. It is akin to a garden of life where seeds are sown into the hearts of children. Such is the sacred art of homemaking, a divine vocation, where earthly tasks become heavenly acts, and a humble abode is transformed into a haven of holy love.

If we look closely enough, we’ll see God’s goodness in what He has given to us. Our portion is evident of His faithfulness.

Homemaking is a tender art, a symphony of daily rituals that breathe life and love into a home. From the sweep of a broom to the arranging of fresh flowers, each task is a stroke of comfort and care if we see it that way. The homemaker’s touch can bring warmth to every corner, infusing the air with a fragrance that only a woman can bring to her environment when she loves it. It’s in these small, thoughtful gestures that a house becomes a haven, a place where the soul finds rest and the heart feels cherished.

In the morning when we wake up we get to decide on the tone that will be set for our homes. It can be filled with so much purpose, even in the midst of difficulty and challenge. The clinking of dishes, the rustling of pages as lists are made and tasks are planned, all contribute to a rhythm that reflects the reality of a household filled with life.

As a homemaker, you get the chance to dress each room, giving it a story, curated with love and attention to detail and reflecting the unique personality and values of those who live there. As a mama to little children, the season is extremely busy and exhausting. My days begin very early, and end late. The talking never ends, and the training is nonstop It isn’t easy. It requires much work and intentionality. It requires our life, and it is worth every seed sown.

Thank you for joining me on this journey of motherhood and faith. If you found comfort and encouragement in this post, I invite you to explore more of my writings on similar topics.

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On my blog, you’ll discover a wealth of stories, tips, and reflections aimed at nurturing your spirit and supporting you through the beautiful chaos of motherhood.

From practical advice on balancing daily responsibilities to heartfelt reflections on deepening your relationship with God, there’s something for every season of motherhood. I’ve shared real-life experiences, lessons learned, and moments of grace that I hope will resonate with you and provide the encouragement you need.

Visit my blog for more posts on creating a peaceful home, finding joy in the little moments, and leaning into God’s strength amidst the challenges. Let’s continue this journey together, growing in faith and love, one step at a time.

Alethea

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My help comes from the Lord

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There are days when I don’t know whether I am going or coming…

I feel an overwhelming sense of grief- partly because of what I see going on around me, and also from internal thoughts. However paradoxically I am at peace because I know that I am in the place that I need to be. I am positioned where God needs me to be in order to be pruned.

Character development is crucial.

I ask the Lord of a few things, frequently. Strength to help me to stand against the enemy, a discerning spirit to know what to pray against, and for the Holy Spirit to take control of my mind.  I have no strength apart from what He graces me with. Since I left career I have not blogged about my experience because quite frankly I have not been able to articulate the experiences, and I do not feel as though I actually have my feet on the ground…

To say that the past few months have been a blur and a whirlwind is a serious understatement. How can multiple thoughts, feelings, emotions and knowledge all co-exist and be activated all at the same time?

I suppose that is where I should be though right?

In my weakness His strength is made perfect. In my weakness, I find myself clinging unashamedly to His hope and the cross even more. In my weakness I dare not even boast in my own ability.

One MAJOR thing that I didn’t even think about, are the enemy’s attacks. They have become more vivid and more visible than I have ever experienced them to be. The past few weeks have been filled with a variety of attacks from terrible dreams, thoughts, irritations, frustrations and physical obstructions and injuries.

Until I realised…

How could I make such a bold step for the Lord and not expect the enemy, my adversary to rage. WOW.

His obsessive preoccupation is to steal from me, to kill dreams and to destroy my life (John 10:10). He will go after any and everything, subtle and obvious. He seeks to ravage my soul with his lies and and blind me to the truth of God’s goodness and provision for my life. He seeks to convince me of failure and hardship, convince me that there is something wrong with me when in fact there is everything wrong with him.

He throws things my way all to evoke anger, jealousy, annoyance and resentment regarding many things. It is very hard and it can be discouraging. Fear creeps in. I feel lost and doubtful. As soon as my mind starts to trail onto these things he ponces on them.

I realise that I have a very real enemy as a woman who stands for the things of God and who is seeking to live His way. This enemy is a terrorist to my soul..

However he does not get the victory because my Bible tells me in 1 John 4:4, But you belong to God, my dear children. You have already won a victory over those people, because the Spirit who lives in you is greater than the spirit who lives in the world.

I am intentional about deciding to bat away his lies by not entertaining his deceiving thoughts that come into my mind.

Be encouraged mama…

Our responsibility is to ask the Lord to help us seek out the subtle things that the enemy goes after. For me it was the seduction and temptation to accept something into my life that will ultimately take me off track and distract me from my journey. This came in the form of discouragement and doubt.

My prayer is Lord help me to discern the enemy’s work in my life.

My weapons against him are;

The Word, praising God, continuing to walk in obedience, faith, prayer, worship, and fasting.

I realise that the greater my commitment to the Lord, the more the enemy will try to attack. Whenever there is a move into a new season of your life/work/ministry he will do all he can to wear you down with discouragement, sickness confusion, guilt, strife, fear, depression or failures. He threatens your mind, emotions, health, work, family and relationships. I realise that Abba has given me this portion to diligently engage in spiritual warfare. I cannot afford NOT TO.

2 Corinthians 10:3-5 –Though we walk in the flesh we do not war according to the flesh. For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal, but they are mighty through God for the pulling down of strongholds, casting down imaginations and every high thing that exalts itself above the knowledge of God, and bringing every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ.

You see when we go through things in life we have to know that it is not in our own strength to overcome. God is at work behind the scenes- even in the seemingly ugly. We must continually stand on God’s Word, and hope in Him alone. This season of my life is EPIC and I look at all the things that God is doing with me right now! Cast them down with the authority that I have been given. My life is beautiful not because of any material/outward possession.

My life is beautiful because I have Jesus Christ and He alone is my strength and hope. Forever.

Stay encouraged, be encouraged my love. Overwhelming victory is ours through Christ Jesus no matter the storm or life experience.