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How to nurture a boys heart

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Nurturing my boys’ hearts is one of the most important parts of my role as their mother. As a homeschooling mum of three boys, my husband and I have the privilege of being with them daily, shaping their character and guiding them toward Christ and into being strong boys and eventually men.

Homeschooling gives us a beautiful window of time and influence to not only teach academics, but to shepherd the hearts of our sons with intention. I always remind myself that It’s not just about teaching maths and reading—it’s about helping them develop a heart that seeks after God, is resilient, loves others well, and stands firm in the Christian faith. In a world that will constantly try to define them by achievements and success, I want them to know that their true worth is found in being sons of the true King.

Seeing their hearts

When we started our homeschool journey I was so geared toward only building them up academically, but I very quickly realised that in order to build a meaningful learning experience for them, I would need to win their hearts over with love, friendship and trust. Building a relationship with each boy where I do my best to see them for their individual strengths and personalities would help strengthen their sense of safety and confidence. It isn’t easy, because most of our days are quite loud and feel chaotic, and so the last thing I want to do is notice and compliment all the great and fun things about them (just being honest!) It’s a discipline that I am working on being more intentional in.

It’s also really easy to focus on correcting behaviour all the time, but true growth happens when we understand the heart behind it. When a boy is acting out or withdrawing, it’s often a signal of something deeper—confusion, frustration, or even a need for connection. Being intentional in this area for me means, trying my best to remember to pause, ask questions, and listen with grace.

“A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” – Proverbs 15:1

Grace-based correction—rooted in relationship—helps a boy know that he’s loved, even when he makes mistakes.

Encouraging emotional honesty and empathy

Many boys are naturally active, physical learners, but they also carry deep emotions—sometimes masked by noise or movement. We’ve had to learn to give our sons language for their feelings. This helps them to communicate in a more self controlled way when they are feeling an emotion.

Creating an atmosphere of love and grace at home is also essential. I want my boys to know that our home is a safe place where they can be vulnerable, share their fears, and ask hard questions. I remind them that no mistake is too big for God’s grace and that nothing they do can separate them from His love—or mine. By showing them unconditional love, I hope to give them a glimpse of the immeasurable love of their Heavenly Father.

Conversations

Intentional conversations are another way I nurture their hearts. Whether it’s around the dinner table, during a car ride, or at bedtime, I try to engage their minds and hearts with meaningful discussions. We talk about faith, courage, kindness, and even the struggles they face, or anything random that may come to mind. I want them to know that their thoughts and feelings matter, and more importantly, that God cares about every detail of their lives.

Life skills

In raising boys, we’re not just preparing them for independence—we’re shaping their character and hearts for the life God is calling them to live. Teaching life skills within the rhythm of home and homeschool life is a sacred opportunity: a chance to model servant leadership, responsibility, and integrity. The boys are involved with learning to cook, tidying the garden and house, caring for each other and discussing life matters. As we teach our sons to work with their hands and think with wisdom, our desire and prayer is that it will help them grow into men who are not only capable but compassionate—anchored in faith, and willing to serve and work hard.

Service

Encouraging them to serve others is another way to shape their hearts for Christ. I remind them that true strength is found in humility and that leadership comes through service. Whether it’s helping a younger sibling, assisting a friend, or participating at church, I want them to experience the joy that comes from putting others before themselves. Jesus was the ultimate servant, and I pray my boys will follow in His footsteps.

Above all, I entrust their hearts to the Lord. I can do my best to teach, guide, and love them, but ultimately, their walk with God is their own. My prayer is that they will grow into men who love Jesus deeply, stand firm in truth, and live with integrity. Proverbs 3:5-6 says, “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.” That is my hope and prayer for my boys—that as they journey through life, their hearts will grow to be steadfast in Christ.

Dealing with monotony and routine as a stay at home mum

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Being a stay-at-home mum is a beautiful calling, but it often comes with the challenge of monotony. The endless cycle of laundry, cooking, cleaning, and always being switched on to care for our children can sometimes feel repetitive and even overwhelming. It’s easy to lose sight of the bigger picture when daily tasks seem to blur into one another. However, as Christian mothers, we are reminded that even in the most mundane moments, God is at work in our lives and in the lives of our families. If we truly look, we’ll find Him.

One of the most encouraging truths in Scripture is found in Colossians 3:23: “Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for human masters.” This verse reminds us that our work at home is not insignificant. Every nappy changed, every meal prepared, and every book read is an opportunity to serve God and our families with love and dedication. When we shift our perspective to see our daily tasks as acts of worship and privilege, we can find deeper meaning in what might otherwise seem mundane.

Gratitude helps

One way to combat the monotony of routine is to cultivate a heart of gratitude. Philippians 4:6 encourages us to bring everything to God with thanksgiving. Taking a moment each day to thank Him for the little blessings—our children’s laughter, the comfort of our home, the provision of food, hot water, clothes—can really transform our outlook. Gratitude refocuses our hearts on the goodness of God rather than the repetitiveness of our routines, and it helps us to see abundance rather than lack.

Spiritual renewal

As mothers, we pour so much into our families, but we must also allow ourselves to be filled. I’ll hold my hand up and be the first to admit that sometimes sheer exhaustion makes me demotivated to pour into myself spiritually, but spending some time in prayer, reading scripture, or even listening to worship music while doing household chores does nourish our souls and keep us connected to God. When we prioritise our relationship with Him, we are better equipped to handle the demands of daily life with patience, wisdom and joy.

Building and nurturing friendships

Finding community is another key aspect of overcoming monotony. Proverbs 27:17 says, “As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.” Whether through church groups, Bible studies, or simply connecting with other mothers, having a support system helps us navigate the challenges of motherhood. Sharing experiences, praying together, and encouraging one another can breathe new life into our routines. I’ve personally found that taking some time to speak with and laugh with friends helps me to reconnect with a different part of myself, which in turn helps me to feel refreshed.

Monotony and simple living can also be a gift to us. In a world that constantly seeks distraction and busyness, the slower rhythms of homemaking allow us to cultivate a heart of peace and contentment. When we embrace the simplicity of our daily lives, we are able to focus on what truly matters—our relationship with God and the love we share with our families. God often speaks to us in the quiet moments, in the steady rhythms of daily life, reminding us that He is present in every small act of love and service.

How to raise confident and resilient boys

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Raising confident and resilient boys in today’s world is challenging, unpredictable, full of constant adjustments, chaotic, downright exhausting, deeply fulfilling, messy and full of lots of teaching moments. As a homeschooling mum to three boys who are still babies to me (6,4 and 2 years) I am slowly learning that raising strong, capable young boys into men has become one of our aims. This isn’t about giving them an ego boost or bubble-wrapping them from failure, but about teaching them how to handle themselves when life’s inevitable bumps occur, and to deal with imperfections and bruises with grace, grit, and from a strong foundation in Christ.

Perseverance

One of the first and constant lessons that we are currently working on, is that failure and imperfection isn’t the enemy. When they get answers wrong, make a mistake or do something imperfectly, their natural response is to shut down, give up or walk away in tears because of the feelings of frustration and disappointment. In our home, my husband and I are consistent in pushing back against this and communicating to them that we celebrate mistakes (sometimes with a little treat) because they are an opportunity for us to learn and grow stronger.

When my first born son struggles with a concept during our learning time, or he colours out of the line during art time, we respond with enthusiasm because we have a chance to try again, and sometimes that is what life gives us- a chance to try again. We encourage him to know that it is ok to feel what he is feeling, but that he should never quit on himself. Resilience isn’t about never falling down; it’s about getting back up, dusting off the sawdust, and trusting that God will guide and strengthen us as we try again.

Confidence, too, is something that we are nurturing. As our boys are very young, we offer this through constant praise the majority of the time because I recognise that our hearts need to know that we are seen by those closest to us, and as their mama, it is my joy to let them know that I see them, love them, celebrate and affirm them.

There are moments when we explain that as they grow, their confidence wont come from constant praise but from real accomplishments and faith in God’s plan. So we do occasionally let them struggle and push through math problems, writing that tricky word for what feels like the hundredth time, and learning how to work together to serve one another during meal times (putting cutlery out, and setting the table). When they achieve something after working for it, the confidence sticks because they know they earned it through perseverance and God’s strength.

Service unto each other and strangers

My boys are very visual, and I quickly learnt that in order to capture their attention and imagination, it would be very helpful to give them a vision of the kind of boy and man that God is helping them to become day by day.

We usually say something along the lines of:

“God has created you for a purpose, and no challenge is too big when you walk in His strength. Keep trusting Him, keep learning, and keep growing into the man He is shaping you to be.“

“You are a warrior for Christ, and true strength comes from faith, kindness, and perseverance. No matter what happens, remember that God is always with you, guiding your steps.”

“When you do hard things, God is helping you grow stronger and stronger”.

We are all naturally self centered, and children demonstrate that to the highest degree because they are children(!), have constant legitimate needs and are under developed in their understanding, maturity and expression of their needs.

Another one of the areas that I am working on when it comes to raising resilient sons is teaching them to serve each other and other people. Serving each other doesn’t always feel pleasant because they bicker, fight and compete against one another, but by learning the discipline of service to one another, they fulfill a really important goal of our family which is to love and work together as one in our home.

When they understand that their strength, and their faculties (hands, feet, eyes, speech) are meant to be used for God’s glory it gives them an external motivation. So gentle reminders are given when we are at home and out in public to help them think outside of themselves and to see the world and people around them—whether that means helping to open the door for someone or comforting a friend who’s has been hurt— it’s all to help them develop a deep, quiet confidence that isn’t rooted in arrogance, but in purpose. Plus, let’s be honest, there’s nothing quite as humbling as helping to clean up after your brother or others! Jesus Himself taught us that true leadership comes through service, and I want my boys to follow His example, and understand the inner strength it takes to think of others.

It’s OK to cry

We are at a stage in life with our boys where crying is the resounding sound in our home, so let’s talk about emotions for a second. We are balancing the importance of them talking with us when they are upset over screaming and shouting. Simultaneously we acknowledge that being strong doesn’t mean stuffing down their feelings and pretending that they are ok when they aren’t.

Boys also need space to express frustration, sadness, and even joy without being told to “be strong.” In our home, we encourage each other to talk things through—sometimes by removing them from a tense environment because resilience isn’t about hiding emotions but trying our best to handle them in a Christ-centered way. Praying together, reading God’s Word, and seeking His wisdom helps us all to process our emotions in a way that strengthens our faith and character.

Role Models

Positive role models also play a crucial role in building resilience. Boys need to see strong, faith-filled men who exemplify integrity, perseverance, and humility. Whether it’s their father, a pastor, a coach, or a trusted mentor, having godly role models shows them what it means to live with strength and grace under pressure. When they see men who turn to God in times of struggle, who admit their mistakes, and who stand firm in their beliefs, they learn to do the same. Surrounding them with wise, godly counsel reinforces the values we teach at home and gives them examples to emulate as they grow. As they are young, we have begun that journey for them through stories and books, as well as spending quality time with daddy.

Series and books that they enjoy are Bibleman, Veggie Tales, Emmanuel’s Dream: The True Story of Emmanuel Ofosu Yeboah, Ten Boys Who Made a Difference (Lightkeepers) and much more.

Proverbs 22:6 reminds us to “train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old, he will not depart from it.” At the end of the day, our goal isn’t to raise tough guys; it’s to raise kind, courageous, and faithful men who will stand firm in a shaky world. With a lot of prayer, patience, and probably a lot more mistakes, I trust that God will shape them into exactly who He created them to be, and we look forward to celebrating the good fruit that comes from their lives!