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When you’re a tired mama: 7 promises from God to hold onto.

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Encouragement for the Weary and Worn-Out Mum Heart

Mama, I see you. Eyes heavy and burning, shoulders tense, coffee barely warm because someone needed you again—and again. Whether you’re chasing toddlers, holding a newborn at 2 AM, or emotionally drained from the mental load of motherhood, I want you to know this: we are not alone, and our tired heart matters to God.

As a stay-at-home mum of three, I’ve had more “tired” days than I can count. I often joke to my husband that we are in a season of perpetual fatigue and tiredness and this is how I would sum up these years of our lives. Some days it’s physical exhaustion; other days it’s soul-deep weariness that sleep can’t fix. On those days, I’ve clung—sometimes barely—to the promises of God. And every single time, He has proven faithful.

Here are 7 promises from God’s Word that have carried me through the tired, teary, and trying moments. I pray they meet you right where you are.

1. God Will Give You Strength

“He gives strength to the weary and increases the power of the weak.” – Isaiah 40:29

You don’t have to muster up your own strength. His power is made perfect in weakness—and mama, if you’re feeling weak, you’re in the perfect position to receive His strength.

Whisper this: “Lord, I’m weary. Be my strength today.”

2. You Are Not Forgotten

“Can a mother forget the baby at her breast…? Though she may forget, I will not forget you!” – Isaiah 49:15

It’s easy to feel invisible in the daily grind—nappies, dishes, and discipline. But God sees you. He knows every sacrifice, every unseen act of love, and He calls you beloved.

Whisper this: “Even if no one sees, God sees me.”

3. His Grace Is Enough

“My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” – 2 Corinthians 12:9

On the days when you lose your patience or feel like you’re falling short, His grace is still enough. You don’t have to be a perfect mum—you just have to be a dependent one.

Whisper this: “I don’t have to do it all. His grace covers me.”

4. You Can Cast Every Care on Him

“Cast all your anxiety on Him because He cares for you.” – 1 Peter 5:7

That mental checklist running on loop? The worries about your child’s future? The burden you’re quietly carrying? He wants it all. Not because He needs control—but because He cares for you.

Whisper this: “God, I give you this burden. I trust You with it.”

5. His Peace Guards Your Heart

“And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.” – Philippians 4:7

When your mind is racing and your emotions are frayed, His peace isn’t just a feeling—it’s a guard. One that stands over your heart and mind like a shield.

Whisper this: “Guard my heart today, Lord. Cover me with Your peace.”

6. He Will Finish What He Started in You

“He who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion…” – Philippians 1:6

Yes, motherhood is messy. But God is using every moment—yes, even the ones with goldfish crumbs and toddler tantrums—to shape us and our children. This is holy work.

Whisper this: “You’re not done with me, God. Keep growing me.”

7. You Are Never Alone

“And surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age.” – Matthew 28:20

When the house is finally quiet and you feel a little lost in your own skin… remember: He is with you. In the silence. In the chaos. In the midnight feedings and in the morning mess.

Whisper this: “You are with me, and that’s enough.”

Final Thoughts

Tired mama, these promises are not just pretty words—they are anchors for our soul. When our energy is low and our patience is stretched, may we hold fast to His Word. Speak it over your heart. Tape it to your fridge. Write it in lipstick on your mirror if you have to.

You don’t have to walk this road alone. Your Shepherd is walking it with you—and He will carry you when you can’t take another step.

With grace,
A mama walking it with you

Tips for a productive and haven like feel at home.

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Hey mama!

I hope you’re well!

As we journey together through the beautiful and sometimes challenging adventure of learning and being at home together as a family, I find myself reflecting on how our physical environment profoundly impacts our ability to absorb knowledge, be inspired, feel free and grow. Just as God created a world of order and beauty for us to thrive in, we too can create a haven of peace, order, inspiration and productivity within our homes.

Today, I want to share some tips on doing just that- specifically, setting up a productive and clutter-free learning and living environment. I hope you’ll be able to add some of these ideas into your own home!

Embrace the sanctuary of learning

When it comes to being inspired to learn (for our children and for ourselves), first and foremost, it’s important to designate a specific area for this no matter how small your space is. This space should be a sanctuary, a place where your heart and mind can focus solely on the task at hand. Choose a spot in your home that is quiet and comfortable, away from the hustle and bustle of daily life. Just as Jesus often retreated to quiet places to pray and reflect, we too need a quiet place to concentrate and learn.

This intentional space becomes a sanctuary where distractions are minimised, allowing our minds to concentrate fully on the task at hand, whether it be absorbing knowledge, engaging in heartfelt prayer, or nurturing a child’s curiosity. A dedicated environment fosters discipline and consistency. For children, having a defined learning area signals the importance of focus and establishes a routine that supports their development. By setting apart these sacred spaces, we honour our commitment to learning and spiritual growth, creating a haven where we and our children can flourish well.

Keep it simple and organised

Keeping our homes simple and organised is a beautiful reflection of the order and peace God desires for our lives. I don’t know about you, but a well-organised home reduces stress for me and allows us all to focus on what truly matters – our relationships, our faith, and our personal growth. This is an area that I am particularly keen on for the children. By eliminating the clutter that they can see, I am trying very hard to create a serene environment where their minds and spirits are not overstimulated, but feel at rest and rejuvenated. This simplicity also helps us to be better stewards of the blessings we have been given, as everything has its place and purpose.

Minimise distractions and digital discipline

The world is full of distractions, and our homes if they are to be a place of tranquility can reflect the opposite which is calmness and peace.

Remember the words of Psalm 46:10, “Be still, and know that I am God.” In this stillness, we can hear His guidance in our hearts. To keep digital distractions at bay and cultivate a peaceful home, we really try to establish thoughtful boundaries and practices around the use of technology. We work hard to designate specific times and areas in our home that are free from electronic devices, such as meal times, family gatherings, and bedrooms. This not only reduces distractions but also fosters deeper connections and more meaningful interactions. We encourage a lot of activities like reading, playing games, or engaging in conversations.

With the boys tablets (which they use occasionally for learning), we use tools and apps that help manage screen time, such as setting limits on usage and scheduling downtime for all devices. Turn off non-essential notifications to prevent constant interruptions, and consider creating a central charging station where devices can be stored out of sight when not in use. Encourage family members to be mindful of their screen habits by setting a good example yourself and discussing the importance of being present and engaged in the moment.

Regular decluttering

Regular decluttering is essential for maintaining a peaceful and calm home, as it reflects the order and simplicity God desires for our lives. In our daily walk with Christ, we are called to cast off anything that hinders us and run the race with perseverance (Hebrews 12:1). In the same way, decluttering our physical space can help us to remove the unnecessary and focus on what truly matters. When we rid our homes of excess, we create an environment where our minds can rest and our spirits can breathe. This simplicity mirrors the peace that surpasses all understanding, which God grants us when we align our lives with His purpose.

Moreover, regular decluttering allows us to be better stewards of the blessings God has given us. When our homes are cluttered, we can feel overwhelmed and distracted, unable to fully appreciate the gifts around us. By organising and simplifying our spaces, we can cultivate gratitude for the things we truly need and love. This practice not only enhances our physical surroundings but also nurtures a heart of contentment and mindfulness. As we create a serene and orderly home, we open the door to more meaningful interactions with our loved ones and deepen our relationship with God, embracing the harmony He intends for our lives.

A Personal Touch

Finally, personalise your space with meaningful items – a plant, a family photo, or a piece of Scripture art. These touches make our spaces inviting and remind us of God’s presence and love. Ensure these items inspire rather than distract, maintaining the balance of beauty and simplicity. I have written a blog post on cultivating a Christ centered home.

Adding a personal touch to our homes helps maintain a peaceful and calm environment by infusing our living spaces with reminders of God’s love and the unique journey He has set before us. When we incorporate meaningful items such as family photos, scripture verses, or cherished mementos, we create a sanctuary that reflects our values and faith. These personal touches serve as daily reminders of the blessings and memories we hold dear, anchoring us in gratitude and joy.

A home adorned with personal touches becomes a haven where our spirits can rest and rejuvenate. Each piece of meaningful decor, whether it’s a handcrafted quilt, a favourite piece of art, or a vase of fresh flowers, contributes to a sense of belonging and comfort. These items tell the story of who we are and what we cherish, creating a warm and inviting atmosphere for ourselves and our loved ones. In this sacred space, we are reminded of God’s intimate involvement in our lives. By intentionally curating our surroundings with love and care, we cultivate a home that not only reflects our personal journey but also becomes a beacon of God’s grace and tranquility.

So mama, as you set up your learning and living environment, remember that God is with you in every step of your journey.

With love and blessings,

Alethea

How to build a home schedule that works

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If you’re anything like me, juggling the homeschooling of three energetic boys and in general young children can sometimes be so overwhelming. Between the teaching, snack breaks, constant tidying up of little people and cooking, it can feel like the day is running us instead of the other way around. But fear not! I’m here to share some tips on how to build a home schedule that actually works—at least most of the time.

Be flexible

First things first, let’s talk about flexibility. As much as I love the idea of a perfectly structured day, with every minute accounted for, I’ve learned that life with kids, especially boys, just doesn’t work that way. There’s always going to be something that throws a wrench into our plans, whether it’s spilled food, an unexpected discovery of a “treasure” in the garden, or a tired and unmotivated gloom of the day. So, while it’s important to have a schedule, it’s equally important to hold it loosely. I like to think of our schedule now as more of a guideline than a strict timetable.

Create blocks of time

One thing that has been a game-changer for us is creating blocks of time instead of specific time slots. For example, we have a morning block for our core subjects like devotion, maths, reading, penmanship etc, an afternoon block for creative activities, and an evening block for family time. This way, if we spend a little extra time on a science experiment (or cleaning up from said experiment), it doesn’t throw the whole day off. It gives us the flexibility to dive deeper into subjects that capture the boys’ interest without feeling rushed.

Another tip is to incorporate plenty of breaks. Boys, in particular, seem to have an endless supply of energy, and expecting them to sit still for hours on end is a recipe for disaster (I’ve tried and learnt my lesson)! We do short bursts of focused learning followed by movement breaks. This may mean a quick game of hide and seek, a workout break, a few minutes on the trampoline, or even a spontaneous dance party in the living room with a Youtube video. These breaks help them burn off energy and come back to their work refreshed and ready to concentrate. I’ll always communicate to them and let them know what’s coming next in the day. This helps to prevent tantrums and resistance when it’s time to move on to the next activity.

Time for ourselves

It’s also crucial to build in some time for ourselves – even though most of the time it feels absolutely impossible! This season simply doesn’t permit me to have my free time as I would like all the time so I am learning that it is possible to infuse things that I enjoy throughout my day. Considering this as self care really helps me to know that I am not counting myself out of the family schedule and planning.

Whether it’s a quiet cup of tea before the boys wake up, a quick workout, some time spent in prayer and reflection, spraying a little perfume, a 5 minute make up routine, or putting on smart clothes for the day, taking care of ourselves even in the littlest way helps us to take better care of our families Remember, you can’t pour from an empty cup. So, carve out those moments of rest and rejuvenation whenever you can.

Use tools to stay on track

Using tools to stay on track can be incredibly helpful in maintaining a sense of order in the home. I have found that keeping a family calendar on the fridge helps everyone stay informed about daily plans and responsibilities. Additionally, a simple to-do list or planner can bring structure to the day and prevent tasks from feeling overwhelming. Personally, I enjoy using a prayer journal alongside my schedule—it not only keeps me organized but also allows me to reflect on God’s presence in my day-to-day life. Whether it’s a digital app or a traditional planner, having a system in place makes a big difference in staying consistent and finding peace amidst the busy routine.

Reassess and adjust regularly

Reassessing and adjusting regularly is crucial to maintaining a healthy and sustainable home schedule. It’s one of the things that I really struggled with initially, but the reality is that life is constantly changing—children grow, schedules shift, and unexpected circumstances arise. Taking time each month or even each week to evaluate what’s working and what’s causing stress can make a big difference. I like to pray over my schedule, asking God for wisdom to discern what needs to be adjusted. If a routine is feeling burdensome, it might be time to simplify or delegate tasks. Being flexible allows for grace in our daily lives, ensuring that our schedule serves us rather than us becoming slaves to it. Adjustments are not signs of failure but of growth and intentionality in creating a home filled with peace and joy.

So there you are! A few tips which I hope you’ll find helpful and encouraging. Building a home schedule that works is all about finding what fits your family’s rhythm and being willing to adjust as needed. With a little planning, a lot of flexibility, and a healthy dose of humor, you can create a routine that keeps everyone learning, laughing, and loving the homeschooling and home life. Keep up the great work, mama! You’ve got this.

Dealing with monotony and routine as a stay at home mum

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Being a stay-at-home mum is a beautiful calling, but it often comes with the challenge of monotony. The endless cycle of laundry, cooking, cleaning, and always being switched on to care for our children can sometimes feel repetitive and even overwhelming. It’s easy to lose sight of the bigger picture when daily tasks seem to blur into one another. However, as Christian mothers, we are reminded that even in the most mundane moments, God is at work in our lives and in the lives of our families. If we truly look, we’ll find Him.

One of the most encouraging truths in Scripture is found in Colossians 3:23: “Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for human masters.” This verse reminds us that our work at home is not insignificant. Every nappy changed, every meal prepared, and every book read is an opportunity to serve God and our families with love and dedication. When we shift our perspective to see our daily tasks as acts of worship and privilege, we can find deeper meaning in what might otherwise seem mundane.

Gratitude helps

One way to combat the monotony of routine is to cultivate a heart of gratitude. Philippians 4:6 encourages us to bring everything to God with thanksgiving. Taking a moment each day to thank Him for the little blessings—our children’s laughter, the comfort of our home, the provision of food, hot water, clothes—can really transform our outlook. Gratitude refocuses our hearts on the goodness of God rather than the repetitiveness of our routines, and it helps us to see abundance rather than lack.

Spiritual renewal

As mothers, we pour so much into our families, but we must also allow ourselves to be filled. I’ll hold my hand up and be the first to admit that sometimes sheer exhaustion makes me demotivated to pour into myself spiritually, but spending some time in prayer, reading scripture, or even listening to worship music while doing household chores does nourish our souls and keep us connected to God. When we prioritise our relationship with Him, we are better equipped to handle the demands of daily life with patience, wisdom and joy.

Building and nurturing friendships

Finding community is another key aspect of overcoming monotony. Proverbs 27:17 says, “As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.” Whether through church groups, Bible studies, or simply connecting with other mothers, having a support system helps us navigate the challenges of motherhood. Sharing experiences, praying together, and encouraging one another can breathe new life into our routines. I’ve personally found that taking some time to speak with and laugh with friends helps me to reconnect with a different part of myself, which in turn helps me to feel refreshed.

Monotony and simple living can also be a gift to us. In a world that constantly seeks distraction and busyness, the slower rhythms of homemaking allow us to cultivate a heart of peace and contentment. When we embrace the simplicity of our daily lives, we are able to focus on what truly matters—our relationship with God and the love we share with our families. God often speaks to us in the quiet moments, in the steady rhythms of daily life, reminding us that He is present in every small act of love and service.

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Creative homeschooling ideas to keep boys engaged.

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Boys!

As a homeschooling mum to three energetic boys, I’ve had my fair share of days where the kitchen resembles a science lab, and our garden a war zone as they play together and learn! Keeping my boys engaged in their studies is not always the easiest, especially when all they want to do is climb trees and launch themselves off of anything furniture-like. With a sprinkle of creativity, and a lot of patience and prayer, I’ve discovered some fantastic ways to turn their boundless energy into fruitful learning adventures. In this post, I’ll be sharing some fun and creative homeschooling ideas that have helped me, and hopefully will help keep your boys not just busy, but excited about learning!

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1. Add plenty of breaks during sit down learning time (for those that need it).

Taking regular breaks is a game-changer when it comes to helping boys focus on their learning. Boys, with high energy levels and a natural inclination towards physical activity, often find it challenging to sit still and concentrate for long periods. My eldest really finds it challenging to be still for so long and so regular breaks allows him to burn off some of that excess energy, which then significantly improves his ability to focus. We use a timer to create a rhythm to our day: 20-30 minutes of focused work followed by a short break. During these breaks, the boys can run around outside, have a snack, or play with their toys. This helps them to have a little bit of a mental reset so they feel refreshed and ready to continue concentrating.

Adding regular breaks into our homeschooling routine felt counterintuitive at first—my brain was thinking “aren’t we supposed to be maximising learning time?” But trust me, these breaks are not just about pausing work; they’re about enhancing the overall quality of learning, and embracing the natural wiggles and jumps of my boys as part of a balanced and effective homeschooling strategy!

2. Include creative and interesting field trips for boys.

Incorporating real-world experiences into learning is another way to keep boys engaged. Field trips to museums, farms, factories, and historical sites bring lessons to life. Even a simple outing to the local park can become educational with a bit of planning. Nature walks can turn into biology lessons, and trips to the supermarket can involve maths and economics. Boys learn best when they can see, touch, and experience the world around them.

Honestly, field trips are a real gem, and provide so much. They may take a little bit of planning, and can feel tiresome for us mums, but for my boys they break up the monotony of sitting at a desk everyday, and provide a change of scenery that can re-energise and motivate them. The anticipation of a fun and interesting trip can keep them engaged and give them something to look forward to. Also, field trips often involve interacting with other people, whether it’s a tour guide, other students, or community members. These interactions help my boys practice and develop important social skills such as listening, asking questions, and working collaboratively. They also provide opportunities to practice good manners and respectful behaviour in different settings.

What I love most about field trips is that they can light the flame for curiosity and exploration. Children are naturally curious and love to explore and trips cater to this curiosity and encourage them to ask questions, seek out new information, and explore their interests. This sense of adventure can ignite a lifelong love of learning and discovery!

3. Boys need arts, crafts and DIY too

Encouraging creativity through arts, crafts and DIY builds can also be highly engaging for boys. They may be enthusiastic about drawing or painting, and often love projects that involve building, sculpting, or assembling. This is because generally, boys excel when it comes to kinesthetic learning, which involves doing and creating. Building projects and crafts provide a tactile, hands-on way to grasp concepts that might seem abstract or challenging when presented through traditional methods. This type of learning can make subjects like maths, science, and engineering more relatable and understandable.

We’ve made everything from cardboard castles to clay models of the solar system, our own electronic fans (that work!) and so much more. These activities have not only provided a welcome break from more structured academic work, but they have allowed my boys to express themselves, and develop fine motor skills. I love including DIY build projects in our week because they often require time and attention to detail which helps develop patience and focus. Whether they’re meticulously assembling a model or carefully following instructions for a craft, these activities teach them to concentrate and see a task through to the end. Successfully completing a project or creating something from scratch also significantly boosts their confidence and sense of accomplishment.

4. Create healthy competitive group games.

One afternoon I sat looking outside my kitchen window at my 3 boys and their boy cousin as couldn’t help but smile as they played very physical competitive games with each other in the garden. It was a very sweet moment and made me realise that socialisation is another critical aspect of homeschooling, and boys often thrive in group settings where they can collaborate and compete in a healthy way. We regularly meet up with other homeschooling families for group activities. Whether it’s a science club or geography club, a sports team, or a co-op where we parents take turns teaching, these interactions provide invaluable opportunities for boys to learn social skills and build friendships.

When structured well, competitive games can teach boys about healthy competition. They learn to strive for their best while maintaining respect for their opponents, and I believe that this balance helps them develop a positive attitude towards competition, emphasising effort and improvement over just winning. Above all, competitive games are fun! They provide a break from routine and offer a joyful and exciting way to learn and grow.

5. Technology & boys.

Incorporating technology thoughtfully and at the right age can be a game-changer in keeping boys interested in learning. If your boy is anything like mine, they are probably easily drawn to gadgets and screens, so we occasionally use educational apps and websites to supplement some of our lessons. There are fantastic resources out there for everything from coding to virtual museum tours. We also use educational games and interactive software to make learning more dynamic. However, it’s important to balance screen time with physical activities and face-to-face interactions.

Homeschooling boys is an amazing blend of chaos and joy. I am finding my feet and balance with embracing their boundless energy, and turning everyday moments into fun learning opportunities. I hope some of these tips will help you survive amidst the noise and mess, and remember that within it all, you’re creating a rich, dynamic learning environment and precious memories that will last a lifetime.

Alethea xx

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I am struggling with time management

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As mothers, our days are mostly filled with a whirlwind of activities—preparing meals, caring for children, maintaining a home, possibly juggling a job, and managing countless other tasks. It’s easy to feel overwhelmed and wonder how we’ll ever get everything done! Time management can feel like an impossible task, especially when our time is no longer just our own. But take heart sis, for we are not alone in this struggle. God sees our efforts and knows the desires of our hearts. He offers us grace, not perfection, and in that grace, we can find ways to manage our time better, to honour Him, and to bring peace to our homes.

Here are four practical tips that can help you thrive more when it comes to this area of your life.

1. Prioritise your day with God at the center

It’s easy to get caught up in the busyness of life and forget to take time for God, but making Him the foundation of our days brings a profound sense of peace and purpose. Start your day with prayer or a short devotion, asking God for guidance in managing your time. Psalm 90:12 says, “Teach us to number our days, that we may gain a heart of wisdom.” By seeking God’s wisdom first, we align our priorities with His will, which can help us focus on what truly matters each day.

Imagine your day begins with the children waking up early and immediately needing your attention. Instead of jumping straight into the chaos, take five minutes to pray or read a Bible verse while they’re still in their rooms. Even a short moment of quiet time with God can change your perspective and give you the patience and wisdom to navigate the day.

2. Set realistic expectations

As mothers, we often set high expectations for ourselves, thinking we need to do it all. However, Proverbs 31, the famous chapter about the virtuous woman, reminds us that she didn’t do everything at once. She focused on what was necessary in each season of her life. Setting realistic goals for your day helps prevent burnout and allows you to appreciate your accomplishments, no matter how small they may seem.

You might have a to-do list that includes cleaning the entire house, preparing three homemade meals, and organising a playdate. This instantly creates so much overwhelm as you have to juggle these tasks as well as taking care of your children. Instead, consider focusing on one or two key tasks and letting go of the others. Maybe today, it’s just tidying up the kitchen and spending quality time with your kids. Celebrate what you’ve done rather than what you didn’t get to. It all equals success!

3. Delegate and accept help

God created us to live in community, not in isolation. Galatians 6:2 encourages us to “carry each other’s burdens,” which means it’s okay—and often necessary—to ask for help. Whether it’s involving your children in household chores, asking your spouse to take on certain tasks, or accepting help from friends or family, delegation can lighten your load and create a sense of shared responsibility within your family.

Perhaps you’re struggling to find time to cook dinner while also helping your children with their homework. Instead of trying to do both simultaneously, consider asking your spouse to handle homework time, or involve the kids in meal preparation. It might not be perfect, but it teaches them responsibility and gives you more breathing room.

4. Embrace flexibility and grace

Life with children is unpredictable, and even the best-laid plans can go awry. It’s essential to embrace flexibility and extend grace to yourself when things don’t go as planned. James 4:13-15 reminds us that we don’t know what tomorrow holds, but we can trust God with our plans. Allow yourself the freedom to adapt when necessary, and let go of the need for everything to be perfect.

You might plan a productive day, only to have your child come down with a cold, throwing all your plans out the window. Instead of feeling defeated, acknowledge that caring for your child is the priority for that day. You can reschedule other tasks, knowing that God sees your heart and honours your willingness to serve your family.

Conclusion

Motherhood is a beautiful yet challenging journey, and time management is a skill that many of us are continually developing. It takes time to find and fine tune a rhythm that works for you and your family. Remember, God’s grace is sufficient for you in every season. You are doing an incredible job, and He is with you every step of the way.

May you find peace, joy, and purpose as you navigate your days, knowing that you are held in His loving hands, and you can indeed thrive here!

Alethea

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How to organise your homeschool: Tips for managing books, learning supplies, and your time.

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Homeschooling our boys has so far been such an exciting and full on journey! We are delving head on into wonder-filled discovery and it has been both my challenge and joy to help the boys lean more into their learning styles, as well as value and enjoy the process of learning! Hands up if you are the type of mum that picks up every educational book because you just KNOW that it’ll add value to their learning experience? Or was it at a price that you couldn’t resist? ha!

One of the challenges with Home Ed is keeping all your things organised! Managing books, supplies, toys and resources can quickly become overwhelming if not handled with care. An organised homeschool space is crucial for maintaining a productive and stress-free learning atmosphere – no matter the size of your space. Here are some practical tips to help you create an organised and efficient homeschool environment.

1. Create a dedicated homeschool space

One of the beauties of homeschooling is that we can create a beautiful seamless flow between home life and learning. I think even with this though, when it comes to some sit down learning, it’s useful to designate a specific area in your home for homeschooling. This space doesn’t need to be a separate room; a corner of a living room, dining table, or dining area can work just fine. The key is to have a consistent place where all specific learning activities take place and where all materials are stored.

A designated learning space helps to minimise distractions that are common in other parts of the house. It provides a controlled environment where toys, TV, and other household activities are not within immediate reach, encouraging and training our children’s minds to concentrate. Also, if you have multiple children who do not learn together, you can create separate play/learning areas so each child can focus on what they are doing.

Also, for us mamas, it helps us to feel organised and in control of the homeschooling process. This designated area allows for all educational materials, books, and supplies to be kept in one place, reducing clutter and the stress of searching for items when needed. It also establishes a clear routine and structure within our home, making it easier for us to manage daily schedules and transitions between activities. Knowing that there is a specific, orderly spot for learning activities not only streamlines the homeschooling process but also creates a sense of calm and efficiency (I play instrumentals on the speaker when my eldest is learning at the table).

2. Use bookshelves wisely

Books are an essential part of homeschooling! They transport us to the world, and fill our hearts and minds with such wonder. I am a big fan of books and I am working so intentionally to make it part of the children’s lives. When we started homeschooling, one of the first things I was told was “all you need is a Bible and a library card”. Books at home can quickly accumulate though without you realising it! Invest in sturdy bookshelves to keep them organised. Here are some ways that we have used bookshelves and been creative with them!

Floating mounted book shelves by each boys sleeping area has been a great addition to the boys room. I wanted to create a private and personal area for them to keep their most favourite books that they could read in bed either in the morning if they wake up early or the evening before they go to sleep.

An accessible book case is also great for encouraging independent reading and access to books. By having a dedicated space at their height, children can independently explore and choose books that pique their interest and this creates a sense of ownership and excitement about reading. Even my 2 year old enjoys taking books from the shelf!

Book bins are also utilised for taller books, and to make it more fun for the children, we have them placed in different locations of the house. These bins are regularly rotated to keep the interest, as they don’t know what treasures they’ll find in them!

An IKEA Bookcase with panel/glass doors is used to store books and resources that need to be out of reach of young hands, as well as books that are little advanced for them at this stage (but I am still buying or collecting!) We chose the book shelf with panels/doors to create a visually appealing area that is attractive to the eye.

3. Incorporate storage bins and containers

Storage bins and containers are lifesavers for organising homeschool books because they provide a practical and efficient way to keep materials orderly and accessible. With homeschooling often involving numerous books, workbooks, and supplies, these bins and containers help categorise and store items neatly, preventing clutter and making it easier to find specific resources quickly.

They can be labelled and colour-coded, further enhancing the organisation and allowing for easy rotation of subjects or materials. Additionally, using storage solutions helps maintain a tidy learning environment, which can reduce distractions and create a more focused, productive space for both teaching and learning. This organisation not only streamlines the homeschooling process (allowing you to see exactly the things that you have) but it also instills good habits of tidiness and responsibility in our children.

Use clear bins to store art supplies, science kits, math manipulatives, and other materials. Label each bin clearly to make it easy for your children to find what they need and to put things back in their proper place.

4. Implement a rotating system for supplies

To prevent clutter and ensure that all of your materials are used, implement a rotating system. It’s so helpful especially when we often tempted to add more when we are out and about in the shops. Creating a rotation system can help keep things fresh for us too. Store out-of-season or future materials in a closet or storage area, and bring them out when needed. This keeps your main homeschooling space tidy and focused.

5. Utilise a rolling cart

A rolling cart can be a versatile addition to your homeschool setup and I know a few homeschool mamas who use them. We use a tower drawer unit as I found it more handy to throw toys into when they weren’t in use. Also, I feels easier to keep things neater. You can use either to keep daily essentials like current textbooks, planners, and supplies handy. At the end of the day, It can be rolled away, or picked up and moved to keep your space clutter-free. They are both great options for moving materials from room to room if you don’t have a dedicated homeschool space.

6. Set up a command center

A command center helps to encourage proactivity and focus on daily activities. Using a bulletin board or wall organiser to display your family’s daily schedule, calendar, chore charts, and important notices is crucial for maintaining order and clarity in your household and homeschooling experience.

As busy parents, having a visible, centralised spot for all essential information helps everyone stay on the same page and creates a sense of responsibility and routine among everyone. It ensures that daily activities, appointments, and chores are clearly communicated, reducing the likelihood of missed tasks or misunderstandings. We use yearly calendars, as well as a large whiteboard in the kitchen to help us bring together the many moving parts in our home.

This visual organisation tool can also serve as a motivational center, where achievements and important reminders are highlighted, promoting a positive and proactive household environment. By keeping everything in plain sight, a bulletin board or wall organiser simplifies the juggling act of family life, making it easier to manage time, responsibilities, and expectations effectively.

7. Establish a filing system

Creating a filing system for important papers, assignments, and records is key! You could use a filing cabinet or portable file box to organise by subject or student. This system will make it easier to keep track of completed work and necessary documents as your children grow older.

Organising your homeschool and your home doesn’t have to be a daunting task. With a bit of planning and creativity, you can create a learning environment that is both functional and inspiring. Remember, the goal is to make your space work for you and your children, fostering a love for learning and making homeschooling a joyful experience for everyone involved.

Happy organising and a massive thank you to a dear friend of mine Karla from Klear My Space who helped me sort through and organise my boys things. She’s a wonderful, a reliable and professional home decluttering and organising solutions person who is just a phone call away if you need some help!

Thank you for joining me on this journey of motherhood and faith. If you found comfort and encouragement in this post, I invite you to explore more of my writings on similar topics.

Why is motherhood so hard?

How do I balance family and personal life?

9 hacks to help you thrive in motherhood

Affirmations for mothers at home

On my blog, you’ll discover a wealth of stories, tips, and reflections aimed at nurturing your spirit and supporting you through the beautiful chaos of motherhood.

From practical advice on balancing daily responsibilities to heartfelt reflections on deepening your relationship with God, there’s something for every season of motherhood. I’ve shared real-life experiences, lessons learned, and moments of grace that I hope will resonate with you and provide the encouragement you need.

Visit my blog for more posts on creating a peaceful home, finding joy in the little moments, and leaning into God’s strength amidst the challenges. Let’s continue this journey together, growing in faith and love, one step at a time.

Alethea

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The importance of teaching household skills + some creative ideas!

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As a homeschooling Christian mother blessed with three sons, I have found myself reflecting deeply on the values I wish to instill in my children. In today’s rapidly changing world, where traditional gender roles are being redefined, I believe there is immense importance in teaching my boys the skills needed to work within the home as well as outside. While societal norms may have shifted, the timeless principles of responsibility, service, and stewardship remain invaluable, especially within the context of a Christian household.

From an early age, I have sought to cultivate a nurturing environment where my sons not only understand the importance of contributing to the household but also embrace it as a privilege and a responsibility. Contrary to outdated stereotypes, teaching boys to work in the home is not about limiting their potential or confining them to traditional gender roles. Instead, it is about empowering them with essential life skills that will serve them well in all aspects of their lives as they grow older.

Servanthood

Our desire, first and foremost is that our boys know the Lord and walk in His ways Lord willing. I hope and pray that they will take on the role as spiritual leaders of their homes, willing to take on difficult tasks and to face problems with heart until they come to a solution. This takes on the form of servanthood. As Christians, we are called to emulate the example set by Jesus Christ, who demonstrated humility and service through his actions. By involving my boys in household chores such as cooking, cleaning, and laundry, I am not only teaching them practical skills but also instilling in them a spirit of humility and selflessness. These seemingly mundane tasks become opportunities for them to practice love in action and to serve others with joy.

I have to remind myself that this is the training ground. So even if an activity takes much longer, or I receive resistance because they would much rather do something else, I have to gently persevere, encourage and normalise hard work because it is good work!

Accountability

Teaching my boys to work in the home creates a sense of responsibility and accountability. In a world that often prioritises individualism and self-gratification, it is a desire for me to instill a strong work ethic and a sense of duty towards their family and community. By assigning age-appropriate tasks and holding them accountable for their contributions, I am equipping my sons with the tools they need to become responsible and dependable men.

Moreover, teaching my boys to work in our home promotes a culture of teamwork and cooperation within the family. As siblings, my sons learn to collaborate and support each other in completing household chores, creating a sense of unity. These shared experiences not only strengthen their bond as brothers but also prepare them to navigate the complexities of relationships outside the home. They often hold each other accountable when the one is not pulling their weight!

Stewardship

In addition to the practical benefits, training my boys to work in the home also aligns with biblical principles of stewardship. As stewards of God’s creation, we are called to responsibly manage the resources entrusted to us, including our time, talents, and material possessions. By teaching my sons to care for their home and belongings, I am reminding them of stewardship and appreciation for the blessings they have been given.

Here are some fun creative ways for you to encourage responsibility for your children!

  1. Chore Chart: A weekly chart where children can track their daily chores and mark them off when completed.
  2. Responsibility Checklist: A checklist of daily responsibilities tailored to different age groups.
  3. Behaviour Tracker: A printable to help track positive behaviors and areas that need improvement.
  4. Allowance Tracker: A tool for tracking chores completed and allowance earned, helping children understand the value of money.
  5. Goal Setting Worksheet: A sheet where children can set short-term and long-term goals and track their progress.
  6. Time Management Planner: A daily or weekly planner designed for children to organise their tasks and activities.
  7. Reading Log: A log for tracking books read, along with space for notes or reflections on each book.
  8. Family Rules Agreement: A printable contract where the family can agree on certain rules and responsibilities.
  9. Responsibility Badge System: Printable badges or certificates that children can earn when they demonstrate responsibility.
  10. Problem-Solving Worksheet: A worksheet that guides children through the steps of identifying problems, considering solutions, and taking action.

These printables can be designed to be visually appealing and easy to use!

Thank you for joining me on this journey of motherhood and faith. If you found comfort and encouragement in this post, I invite you to explore more of my writings on similar topics.

Why is motherhood so hard?

How do I balance family and personal life?

9 hacks to help you thrive in motherhood

Affirmations for mothers at home

On my blog, you’ll discover a wealth of stories, tips, and reflections aimed at nurturing your spirit and supporting you through the beautiful chaos of motherhood.

From practical advice on balancing daily responsibilities to heartfelt reflections on deepening your relationship with God, there’s something for every season of motherhood. I’ve shared real-life experiences, lessons learned, and moments of grace that I hope will resonate with you and provide the encouragement you need.

Visit my blog for more posts on creating a peaceful home, finding joy in the little moments, and leaning into God’s strength amidst the challenges. Let’s continue this journey together, growing in faith and love, one step at a time.

Blessings,

Alethea

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How to deal with overwhelm as a mother

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Oh, how I understand the weight of motherhood!

It’s a beautiful, sacred journey, but it can also be incredibly overwhelming. There are days when it feels like the to-do list is never-ending, and the demands on our time and energy feel impossible to meet. But take heart mama, for you are not alone. Wherever you are reading this today I hope you can use this moment to exhale and just BREATHE. Grab a cup of tea, as I share some ways to navigate the overwhelm, drawn from my own experiences and our faith in God’s unending grace.

One morning, I woke up to the sound of my toddler’s cries, and my other two boys fighting over a toy that they had snuck into their room the night before. My heart sank as I tried to ignore the sounds, hoping my husband would take one for the parent team. He was fast asleep! I stumbled out of bed, already feeling defeated before the day had really begun. Have you ever had a day start like that? In moments like these, it’s easy to feel crushed by the weight of our responsibilities. But I’ve learned that when we start our day with a quick prayer, asking God for strength and guidance, it can transform our outlook. Even a simple, “Lord, help me today,” whispered in the chaos, can bring a sense of calm and remind us that we’re not carrying this load alone.

The power of routine

Another way to tackle overwhelm is by embracing the power of a routine. My mornings used to be a whirlwind of forgotten tasks and last-minute scrambles as everyone bounced around me. But once I started setting aside a little time in the evening to prepare for the next day, things began to shift. A quick 30 minutes to lay out clothes, prepare lunches, and even spending a few quiet moments with God’s Word before bed can make a world of difference for the next day.

Proverbs 31:27 speaks of the woman who “watches over the affairs of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness.” Creating a routine doesn’t mean we have to be perfect; it’s about finding a rhythm that brings peace to our days. Even waking up a few moments before the children will help you to gather your thoughts before everyone else wakes up. My morning routine typically begins with a workout, writing or reading, all before the boys wake up, and it really helps me to feel like I am doing something for myself- filling up my own cup before I focus on pouring into others.

Perfection doesn’t exist

When we first become mothers, perfection is the thing that can completely consume us. There was a season when I felt like I had to do everything perfectly – be the perfect mum, the perfect wife, the perfect homemaker. But one day, as I sat exhausted and so close to tears, a dear friend reminded me that it’s okay to ask for help. Galatians 6:2 encourages us to “carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ.” Don’t be afraid to reach out to your spouse, family, or friends when you need a hand. Whether it’s asking your husband to watch the kids so you can have a moment to yourself or arranging a playdate swap with a fellow mum, sharing the load can lighten your heart immensely, and ease the overwhelm that we often feel

I also want to encourage you to carve out time for self-care, without guilt. Jesus often withdrew to lonely places to pray (Luke 5:16), showing us the importance of rest and renewal. For me, this looks like a quiet walk in the evening or morning, a few minutes of journaling or reading, or even just sitting in the car for a few extra moments after grocery shopping. Find what replenishes your soul and make it a regular part of your routine. Remember, taking care of yourself isn’t selfish; it’s necessary for you to pour out love and care for your family.

Creating a “thrive list” has been a game-changer for me in navigating the demands and sacrifice in motherhood. This list includes all the things that bring me joy and fulfillment such as reading a good book, taking a walk in nature, enjoying a hot cup of tea, or spending quiet time in prayer. By intentionally setting aside time to engage in this, I ensure that I don’t lose myself in the daily responsibilities of motherhood. It’s a reminder that nurturing my own well-being is essential, not only for me but also for my ability to be the best mother I can be to my boys. Making space for what I love helps me to thrive, maintaining a sense of balance and joy in the beautiful chaos of raising children.

You can download yours for FREE here and put it in a place where you’ll see it and be encouraged to pour into yourself.

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The power of community

Lastly, Remember the power of community. Surround yourself with other mothers who understand the ups and downs of this journey. Join a local mums’ group, attend church events, or even connect online through social media. Sharing your struggles and victories with others can be incredibly uplifting. We are meant to support one another, just as it says in Ecclesiastes 4:9-10, “Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up.”

In all these things, hold onto the truth that God’s grace is sufficient for us (2 Corinthians 12:9). We don’t have to be perfect; we just have to be present and willing to trust Him with our daily struggles. Motherhood is a marathon, not a sprint, and by leaning on God and each other, we can find the strength to keep going, even on the hardest days.

You’ve got this mama.

Thank you for joining me on this journey of motherhood and faith. If you found comfort and encouragement in this post, I invite you to explore more of my writings on similar topics.

Why is motherhood so hard?

How do I balance family and personal life?

9 hacks to help you thrive in motherhood

Affirmations for mothers at home

On my blog, you’ll discover a wealth of stories, tips, and reflections aimed at nurturing your spirit and supporting you through the beautiful chaos of motherhood.

From practical advice on balancing daily responsibilities to heartfelt reflections on deepening your relationship with God, there’s something for every season of motherhood. I’ve shared real-life experiences, lessons learned, and moments of grace that I hope will resonate with you and provide the encouragement you need.

Visit my blog for more posts on creating a peaceful home, finding joy in the little moments, and leaning into God’s strength amidst the challenges. Let’s continue this journey together, growing in faith and love, one step at a time.

Blessings,

Alethea

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How do I balance family and personal life?

Published on by Alethea Awuku5 Comments

Hey mama,

I hope you are doing well?

Have you ever felt like your days are spiraling at the speed of light and it’s hard to place your feet on the ground and just breathe?

Most days, I feel this exact way. Really in the thick of it as a young mother with 3 young children. Sometimes, everything is up in the air and I can’t get a grasp on anything- all the while feeling so exhausted from the sheer pace of it all.

I feel like I am in a tornado, yet in the midst of this, what do I do? Of course to get in inspiration (and let’s be honest to escape my own life for a moment and be nosey) I hop onto social media to take a peek at the mothers who appear to be doing so well in work, family life, home life and personal interests- further making me feel defeated as I struggle to keep my eyes open and motivation up to play yet another game with my boys in the day.

Can you relate?

It can be a daily battle to feel and believe that we are building balance and abundance when all the busyness and tiredness merges into one.

Yet my passion and belief is that we can all thrive in motherhood and home/family life if we keep working at it.

In today’s post, I want to talk about balancing family demands and responsibilities, while cultivating our personal lives. Balancing family and personal life is a challenge that many of us face as we expand and grow, but it isn’t impossible to cultivate a life that reflects all of our values, beliefs and desires. With prayer, wisdom, and a lot of intentional effort, it is possible to achieve a harmonious balance and consistency in this area of our lives.

Here are some guiding principles that help me greatly and I hope they’ll be an encouragement to you too. At the end of each point, I’ll suggest an action which I hope will help you to start thinking about ways that you can add more balance to your own life.

Decide what is important to you and your family

I’d begin by looking at your overall family and personal WHY. Knowing what is important to you personally, and to your family is the first step to identifying where you want to put your energy and resources. In the beautiful confetti flying chaos of raising a family, it is easy to lose sight of the bigger picture that supports and knits your dreams and ideals together with your current reality. Managing multiple daily commitments, activities, social events, plans and relationships under one household can be an extremely demanding and overwhelming responsibility.

In the midst of all the hustle and bustle of moving from room to room, and in and out of the front door, it can honestly feel like we are living in a whirlwind with no idea where everyone will eventually land. Having a family mission and regularly reviewing it, has helped to give our days purpose and helped to structure out what those days will look like. It doesn’t always flow perfectly, but it gives us a blueprint to follow and come back to during the busy and overwhelming days. It also sets as a powerful mirror that reflects back to us where we are spending our time, money and energy.

Once you have decided on what is important to you and WHY, you can build in actionable steps taking into account that season of life that you are currently living in. Having a mutual understanding with your husband about this foundational area of your lives helps you to eliminate the things that don’t serve you, and get excited about the things that do!

Action: Purchase your family mission statement today and start thinking and working through the key areas of your life that you want to build up.

Seek God first

The foundation of balance in life for us as Christians begins with our relationship with God. Matthew 6:33 reminds us to “seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.” I’ve found that when we look at life from a biblical worldview, i.e. asking “how does this first serve God and bring Him glory?” It helps to clarify and eliminate options that don’t serve this goal.

Seeking God first is the cornerstone of balancing family and personal life and this is not just for the social activities that we engage in, but for the way in which we guide, teach and nurture our children. When we have children and they start growing up, the clubs and extra- curricular activities become the thing that drain a lot of parents time and energy. We want our children to have the best chance at everything, and we are so passionate about exposing them to all the possibilities that this world has to offer. However, sometimes this can work against the family harmony, finances and balance.

By prioritising time with God through prayer, reading the Bible, and worship, we gain the wisdom and perspective that helps us to set the right priorities based on the season that we are in. We are reminded of what the first thing is, and we are reassured that God sees us and our household. He loves us, He will help our children to grow and thrive, and we do not need to go into overdrive in the quest of keeping them occupied. The Lord tenderly reminds us that He is all that we need to make our family feel loved and supported while, also attending to our personal needs, desires and prayer points.

When we seek God first, we are reminded of His peace and grace, which allows us to cultivate a sense of gratitude and contentment, even amidst the busyness of motherhood. It encourages us to be more present with our children and spouse, recognising the value in each one of them, and in the moment. Ultimately, placing God at the center helps us create a balanced, joyful, and fulfilling life that reflects His love and purpose, and this makes us more focused, and better equipped to handle the specific responsibilities, challenges and blessings that come with our unique family life.

Action: Set some time aside early in the morning or late at night to journal, and pray, asking God to help you seek Him first in your family life. What is unique to your family situation in this season that needs your time, energy and resources? We don’t need to do all the things that others are doing if it doesn’t flow well for us right now.

Discuss, and prioritise your roles

I remember feeling very frustrated and limited in my role as a mother because I couldn’t move about as freely as my husband. Typically, he picks himself up and he goes wherever he has to go, and does whatever he needs to do without an entourage. Simple tasks like getting into the car, popping the supermarket, going to the post office, working without interruptions are all easy for him because he doesn’t have to consider carrying the kids around with him. That part is covered by me.

I take on that weight and on some days I just feel so tired of it all lol. The constant talking sends me over the edge and I miss the days when I could just drive in peace and run quick errands. Yet when I think of it from a biblical perspective, and from the perspective of mother, I am encouraged to remember that my children are a blessing, and they like to spend time with me. I think about what the role of mother entails and it helps me to open my heart to appreciate, love and slow down as I navigate the day with my children.

Understanding the various roles that God has entrusted to us is key. Wife, mother, daughter, friend, and individual are but a few of the roles that most of us are privileged to experience. Understanding my role as a woman, as defined by biblical principles, profoundly helps me balance my family and personal life. As a Christian mum, embracing my God-given identity and purpose brings clarity and direction when I know what the Bible says about my role.

Recognising that I am called to be a helper, nurturer, and a source of strength within my home allows me to prioritise my family’s needs while also valuing my personal growth and well-being. Slowing down to love, correct and enjoy my children blesses and comforts a part of me, of which I am so grateful to experience. There are several times when I do need moments to myself and understanding this helps me establish healthy boundaries, ensuring I don’t lose myself in the responsibility of daily life.

It reminds me to seek God’s wisdom and strength in fulfilling my duties, whether it’s through nurturing my children, supporting my husband, or cultivating my personal talents and interests. Knowing that God doesn’t want us to fail is so encouraging. Within embracing our roles, we can find joy and fulfillment in serving our families and pursuing our passions, creating a balance that honours God and enriches our lives. This balance is not about perfection but about faithfulness and grace, knowing that through Christ, we can manage and enjoy our responsibilities.

Additionally, understanding our various roles helps us to appreciate the unique qualities God has instilled in us as a women, such as empathy, intuition, and compassion. These traits enable us to connect deeply with our families and communities, building strong relationships. Embracing our role also means acknowledging our worth and the importance of self-care, which is essential for maintaining the energy and joy needed to serve our family effectively.

Action: take some time to reflect on the various roles that you play, and what you do in each of them. Just look at how much God has put in and around you! You are blessed! Next, if there are some areas that are causing stress or anxiety speak to your spouse about it to see if you can either change the dynamic, or get some support in that area.

Plan and prepare days or moments for yourself

This point is important and very practical. Grab a calendar and jot down all the things that a month entails- outings, work, celebrations etc. Planning days or moments for yourself as a mother is important for the below reasons:

  1. Self-Care: Taking time for yourself allows you to recharge and maintain your physical and mental health. Parenting is demanding, and without regular self-care, you risk burnout, stress, and even health issues. Self care is different for everyone. Identify a few things that encourage you to feel like you are thriving and work on actioning them in baby steps. You’ll feel so revitalised and it’ll set a reminder to your brain that you don’t need to be forgotten in the midst of it all.
  2. Role Modeling: By prioritising your moments, you demonstrate to your children the importance of balancing responsibilities and personal well-being. I believe that it is important to teach them this in a healthy way as it is part of a life lesson. They learn that God created mummy to love and raise us, but she is also a person who needs God’s love, help and strength. This teaches them valuable life skills about self-worth and healthy habits.
  3. Maintaining Identity: It’s easy to lose your sense of self when focusing solely on your family. Planning personal time can help you stay connected to your interests, hobbies, and passions, maintaining your individual identity beyond motherhood. I don’t see this as a negative thing at all. When we connect naturally with the things that we personally enjoy outside of our children, we get to bring them into our world as they witness a different side to us and it’s beautiful. When you take care of yourself, you’re better equipped to take care of your family. A well-rested, happy, and healthy mother can provide more effective, patient, and loving care to her children.
  4. Stress Management: Scheduled personal time can help manage stress by providing regular breaks and opportunities to decompress. This is certainly true for me when I go on my regular walks or runs. Simply being outdoors helps to diffuse my thoughts and gain fresh perspective on things.
  5. Enhanced Relationships: Every so often, time away from our daily routines can improve relationships within the family. It gives space for appreciation to grow which leads to more meaningful interactions when we are with our families.
  6. Personal Growth: We are always learning, and can take time out to learn new things as mothers. It enriches us and helps us to build community. By taking some time out to build this area of our lives over time provides opportunities for personal development. Whether learning new skills, pursuing education, or engaging in self-reflection, personal time is crucial for our growth.
  7. Mental Health: Regular breaks and personal time are vital for maintaining good mental health. They provide opportunities to process emotions, reduce anxiety, and improve overall mental well-being. I have found that journaling and prayer in these moments have been a real blessing.

Action: Have a look through your family calendar and see where you can slot in an afternoon, a morning, and hour or two for yourself and set it in there as an important activity that you agree on with your husband.

Communicate with Love

It can be hard sometimes to communicate to your husband that you need more assistance in an area, or that you need him and the kids to pick up a particular responsibility, but open and loving communication with our family is essential. Setting some time aside to speak with our husbands and share our needs in an encouraging way helps us to feel heard and valued in family life. This is important because as mum’s we are an integral part of our family unit, and so it’s healthy for us to practice exercising our voice when it comes to the area of communication.

Some areas where I have had to learn to communicate clearly and lovingly are:

  1. Delegation and Collaboration: Encouraging the whole family to be involved in household tasks is something that I am trying to be so consistent in because it is a genuine help to me as much as it is training for them. Often, I can do it and much quicker, however it doesn’t always help to ease my load so we work hard to encourage team effort, teaching our children the value of teamwork and responsibility. This not only lightens your load but also strengthens family bonds.
  2. Learning to say no: It’s okay to say no to additional commitments that do not align with your priorities. It’s not always easy, but we have to be sensitive the times, seasons and moments of our lives and decide accordingly. Seeking discernment through prayer to know when to say yes and when to say no is so liberating because we realise that we are in control of our schedules and the rhythm of our days. If balance is something that we are trying to build, all things need to align to that goal.
  3. Rely on community: Another point that isn’t always logistically easy for a lot of us. We are not meant to walk on this journey alone, and we can lean on others for support. Galatians 6:2 encourages us to “carry each other’s burdens.” Don’t hesitate to seek help from friends, mentors, or church family. It is a great encouragement to the heart, and in some cases can come at just the time when you need to be refreshed.

Action: Are there any of these points that you can start on?

Balancing family and personal life is an ongoing journey! It requires wisdom, patience, and grace. By seeking God’s guidance and applying these principles, I hope you can find a fulfilling balance that honours Him and enriches you and your family’s life.

Speak to you soon and here’s to thriving in this beautiful season that we are in.

Alethea x-o